Did I disappoint you and let you down?

It’s a little embarrassing to admit, but right now I’m listening to a song on repeat that’s making me feel quite emotional.

The song:

Goodbye my love, by James Blunt.

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Why’s it making me so emotional? It’s the constant question he’s asking a former lover:

“Did I disappoint you and let you down?”

It’s a question I used to ask people a lot. I was someone constantly striving to live according to other people’s expectations of me.

What I didn’t realize at the time was that I was the one who created these expectations.

I was a successful student at university and knew how to play the game of writing essays and exams, sharing knowledge in a way that the teachers and examiners expected it to be shared.

After university, I figured out how to get a good job as a management consultant by showing how ambitious and hard working I was.

I managed to be accepted into a pretty lucrative fellowship program to complete my doctoral research in Europe.

Yet along the way, all of these expectations increasingly weighed me down. My goals got bigger than my ability to deliver on them. People started to rely on me and I was constantly falling short.

It was exhausting and I became a shadow of the man I wanted to be.

Then I met the shaman Rudá Iandé in New York City. He became my coach. This was the beginning of an incredible four-year journey that has completely transformed how I see myself and the people around me.

It hasn’t been an easy journey. Yet it’s completely changed my life.

I used to spend so much of my energy worrying about disappointing people and letting them down.

Now, I’ve gone through an intensive process with Rudá exploring my most authentic core, uniqueness and creativity. Along the way, he’s given me a complete set of tools to develop my innermost self and harness the best of my creative potential. Using these tools, I have redesigned my destiny and taken the reigns of my life.

With my newfound connection with my inner compass, with my own deeper nature, I’m no longer asking the question:

“Did I disappoint you and let you down?”

As I listen to James Blunt sing these lyrics, I feel immense gratitude for having met Rudá and done so much work in aligning with my own unique self.

My journey is far from over. It’s a constant journey that even Rudá is still on himself. It never really stops.

But that’s precisely the point. When you learn to live life this way, it becomes about the process rather than the destination.

For a limited time, we are running the Out of the Box group coaching program lead by Rudá Iandé. It’s a 12 week program beginning on October 4th, 2018, for 30 people. There are live group coaching seminars, weekly videos, comprehensive reading material and many exercises to integrate everything you learn.

Rudá has shared the very best of his knowlege and experience. The coaching program is delivered on the Ideapod Academy and there’s a private social network for the participants to get to know each other. We’re forming a cyber-tribe.

If you’re interested in finding out more, check out Out of the Box by clicking here. You can enroll at the bottom of the page. You should move fast as places are strictly limited.

Written by Justin Brown

I'm Justin Brown, the founder of Ideapod. I've overseen the evolution of Ideapod from a social network for ideas into a publishing and education platform with millions of monthly readers and multiple products helping people to think critically, see issues clearly and engage with the world responsibly.

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