8 daily habits of exceptionally likable people

Exceptionally likable people spread positivity and build meaningful relationships.

But what sets them apart from the rest?

It’s not just their charm, humor, or politeness.

It’s their deep interest in others, which they cultivate as often as possible.

And it all comes down to the little things they do every day.

Here are 8 daily habits of exceptionally likable people.

If you want to boost your charisma, start by incorporating these into your routine.

1) They acknowledge other people

I love walking. It’s my main form of exercise.

I don’t take a walk every day because getting out of bed during the cold months is overrated, but I try to do it as often as possible.

I put in earbuds, listen to an audiobook, and people-watch.

One of the biggest things I’ve noticed over the last couple of years is that very few people seem happy.

It’s the opposite. Most people who walk by me appear grumpy, worried, or sad.

They either stare down at their phones, talk on their phones, or look like they’re trying to solve a complicated math equation while waiting for the light to turn green.

We’ve been living through unprecedented times for a while now, so it makes sense.

It’s also depressing.

The second big thing I’ve noticed is that people rarely acknowledge each other anymore.

If I smile at a stranger, they don’t smile back. If I sit down next to someone on a park bench and say hello, they don’t reply.

It bums me out.

As the world gets increasingly more terrifying, connecting with others is a small way to remind yourself that kindness matters.

And exceptionally likable people do it every day, regardless of pushback.   

A fleeting moment of connection can be enough to boost someone’s mood.

Plus, if you manage to make another person feel less alone, you make a great first impression.

Ask your Uber driver how their day is going. Thank the cleaner for emptying your trashcan at the office. Give the person who delivered your food a big, genuine smile.

Acknowledging people, whether through a smile, a nod, or a simple greeting, validates their presence and shows respect.

It tells them you recognize their worth as individuals.

And it will make them like you, for sure.

2) They perform small acts of kindness

On a similar note, exceptionally likable people always look for ways to lend a helping hand.

It doesn’t have to be anything monumental.

You can hold the door open for someone, offer to carry the groceries for an elderly neighbor, or give up your subway seat for someone who looks like they need it more.

Extend these small acts of kindness to people in your immediate circle as well:

  • Help a co-worker with a difficult task
  • Send your friend who is going through a tough time flowers
  • Call a relative you haven’t spoken to in a while and chat about what they’ve been up to
  • Offer to babysit for the couple in dire need of a night out

Being nice doesn’t just make you more likable; it contributes to your good karma.

We create our own luck.  

3) They listen

Another thing all exceptionally good people have in common is that they’re great listeners.

This encourages others to be vulnerable and ensures deeper connections.

The good news?

Everyone can become a better listener with a bit of practice.

All you need to do is be fully present when someone talks to you and give them your undivided attention.

Some additional tips that will help:

  • Put away your phone and focus on the conversation
  • Approach each conversation with an open mind, setting aside preconceived notions or judgments
  • Put yourself in the speaker’s shoes and acknowledge their feelings
  • Ask pertinent questions about the speaker’s experience
  • Allow the speaker to express themselves at their own pace without interrupting or rushing the conversation
  • Use non-verbal cues to show your engagement (maintain eye contact, nod, offer encouraging gestures or facial expressions)

People appreciate feeling heard – and they’ll like you that much more for it.

4) They give compliments

Giving compliments is one of the most effective ways to brighten someone’s day and build positive relationships.

With one caveat. The compliment has to be genuine.

Many people can smell insincerity from a mile away, so speak from the heart.

Be honest and specific.

Instead of saying, “You’re great,” say something like, “I appreciate how you always go the extra mile to help others.”

Instead of saying, “I love your shirt,” say something like, “Oh, wow, that shirt really brings out your eyes.”

You get the idea.  

5) They show up

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In the age of ghosting and canceled plans, flakiness has unfortunately become a common trait among the majority of people.

There are likely several reasons for this, including the rise of digital communication and the fact that there never seem to be enough hours in the day to get everything done.

Yet, you know who never cancels plans at the last minute?

Exceptionally likable people. 

They show up.

Failing to make an appearance at significant events in the lives of your loved ones erodes trust and leads to hurt feelings.

Unless you have a good reason to bail, be where you said you would be.

Weddings, birthdays, funerals – but also celebratory drinks, catch-up brunches, and “just because” coffees.

If you want people to like you, be on their radar.

It’s not that hard.

6) They avoid gossip

A surefire way to make people dislike you?

Talk about them behind their back.

They’ll hear about it eventually, and you’ll lose precious social points.

If you must, only gossip with your closest friends, the ones you trust the most and are sure won’t betray you by blabbing about your bad behavior.

Mum’s the word with everyone else.

7) They prioritize self-care

As you went through this list, you probably wondered how these exceptionally likable people find the energy to be so cordial time after time.

Here’s their secret: they prioritize self-care.

Think about it. 

When are you most likely to snap at people or act like a nuisance?

When you’re hungry, tired, or overwhelmed.

To come across as more likable, make caring for yourself job one:

  • Get enough sleep
  • Take 5-minute work breaks every hour or two to unwind 
  • Take all your vacation time
  • Eat a healthy, balanced diet that leaves you feeling full and satisfied
  • Don’t overcommit to social engagements
  • Spend time in nature every once in a while
  • Make sure you look at the sky at least once per day
  • Regularly engage in your favorite hobbies

When you’re nice to yourself, being nice to everyone else becomes effortless.

8) They express gratitude

Finally, exceptionally likable people cultivate gratitude.

Gratitude triggers other positive emotions like joy and contentment.

In turn, these emotions tend to make people more generous, empathetic, and kind.

Gratitude can also shift your perspective and teach you to appreciate your connections more.

It has a ripple effect on your interactions with others, encouraging you to be more considerate and generous.

All in all, it makes you a nicer person to be around.

Final thoughts

Becoming an exceptionally likable person isn’t about changing who you are.

It’s about paying attention to others, a practice that will help you create positive and lasting impressions on those around.

Don’t believe me?

Give the habits above a try.

You’ll notice a difference in no time.

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Alexandra Plesa

Alexandra Pleșa is a freelance writer obsessed with television, self-development, and thriller books. Former journalist, current pop culture junkie. Follow her on Twitter: @alexandraplesa

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