10 things confident people always do (but never talk about)

Confidence is something we all strive for, but it isn’t something that comes easily. It takes practice and dedication to become truly confident in yourself.

While some things that boost your confidence, such as being successful, are easily visible to others, there are also many things confident people do that don’t get talked about.

From the way they dress to the way they speak, confident people have some habits that set them apart from those who lack self-assurance.

Here are 10 things confident people always do, but never talk about.

1. They focus on their strengths

“Your talent is God’s gift to you. What you do with it is your gift back to God.” – Leo Buscaglia

Confident people all have one thing in common: They know their strengths.

While many people focus on the flaws in their life, people who are confident in themselves will always try to accentuate the positives.

Confidence people understand that focusing on our strengths allows us to be more efficient and effective in our pursuits, as we are able to utilize the skills and abilities that come naturally to us.

This can lead to a sense of accomplishment and success, which can further boost our confidence.

If you want to boost your self-esteem, start by writing down your strengths.

By focusing on your strengths, you’ll be able to see how amazing you truly are.

After all, confidence is nothing without a reason behind it.

2. They stay away from people who bring them down

“Surround yourself with people who make you happy. People who make you laugh, who help you when you’re in need. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.” – Karl Marx

Confident people aren’t afraid to cut toxic people out of their lives.

While it’s easy to get caught up in the idea of being nice and polite, confident people know when they’re being dragged down by someone.

Confident people know when to stand their ground and don’t let toxic people bring them down to their level.

They realize that toxic people are often emotionally draining and can create a negative and stressful environment, which can be harmful to one’s mental health and confidence.

After all, we can’t control what people do, but we can control who we spend our time with.

If you have a friend who brings you down, it may be time to re-evaluate your friendship.

3. They dress for success

“Dress for the job you want, not the job you have.”

Confident people know that how they dress can have a huge impact on their success.

While you don’t have to spend a fortune on designer clothes, you should always try to look your best.

Confident people know that dressing for success won’t just help them in their careers; it’ll help them in all aspects of their life.

Not only does dressing well help with first impressions, but the clothes you wear can also be a form of self-expression, and can help you feel more comfortable and authentic in your own skin.

When you feel good about the way you look, it can boost your confidence and self-esteem.

If you want to feel more confident, start by having a clear idea of what you want to wear.

Then, make sure to actually follow through with wearing it. It may seem like a small thing, but dressing well can boost your self-esteem in a huge way.

4. They practice positive self-talk

“I am worthy. I am capable. I am enough.”

The way we talk to ourselves is incredibly important. If we start telling ourselves that we are worthy and capable, chances are we will be able to live up to that.

However, if we are constantly putting ourselves down, it’s extremely hard to get back up again.

While we all have negative thoughts every now and again, confident people make a point of replacing those thoughts with positive self-talk.

By making this a regular part of their life, confident people are able to boost their self-esteem and self-confidence in a big way.

5. They stay organized

“Organization is not about perfection; it’s about efficiency, reducing stress and clutter, saving time and money and improving your overall quality of life.” – Christina Scalise

People who are confident in themselves know that organization is key to success. If you want to feel more confident in your life, take some time to clear things up.

Whether you organize your desk at work or have a big clean out of your closet, organization can make a big difference in your self-esteem and self-confidence.

After all, nothing is more frustrating than being disorganized.

By taking some time to get things in order, you’ll give yourself a less stressful life, which will in turn boost your self-esteem and self-confidence.

6. They set boundaries

“Boundaries are a part of self-care. They are healthy, normal and necessary.” 

If you want to feel confident in yourself, you should make a habit of setting boundaries.

Boundaries are rules that you set for yourself regarding what is and isn’t acceptable in your life.

For example, you may decide that you won’t go to bars, or you won’t date people you work with.

While many people think rules like this are silly, confident people know that setting boundaries is essential to protecting their self-esteem and self-confidence.

Being organized can also reduce stress and increase productivity, as it allows them to have a clear understanding of what needs to be done and how to prioritize tasks.

7. They take calculated risks

“The biggest risk is not taking any risk. In a world that’s changing quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.” – Mark Zuckerberg

While successful people are careful to avoid risk whenever possible, confident people endeavor to take calculated risks.

All too often, we settle for what we have because we’re afraid of losing what we have.

However, confident people know that by taking calculated risks, they are able to expand their horizons.

After all, how else are we supposed to get ahead if we never take any chances?

While you don’t have to go out and make huge, reckless decisions, confident people know that it is important to take some risks once in a while.

8. They learn from their mistakes

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas Edison

Successful people aren’t afraid to make mistakes. Actually, confident people know that it’s essential to make mistakes in life.

After all, mistakes are where we learn. If you want to be more confident in yourself, you need to learn from your mistakes.

Learning from mistakes allows confident people to gain new insights and understanding, and to develop new skills and knowledge.

This can help them become more resilient and adaptable and can contribute to their overall personal and professional development.

While it may be hard to admit that you were wrong, or that you made a mistake, confident people are brave enough to learn from their mistakes.

9. They listen more than they talk

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” – Stephen R. Covey

Confident people know that communication is important, but it’s everything else that comes with it that really matters.

By being fully present in every conversation they have, confident people are able to get a lot out of every interaction they have.

Listening more than talking also allows confident people to build stronger relationships and connect with others on a deeper level.

When we listen actively and attentively, we show respect and consideration for others, which can foster trust and strengthen our relationships.

After all, how are we supposed to connect with people if we’re not even paying attention?

If you want to feel more confident in yourself, make a point of listening more than you talk.

10. They invest in themselves

“Investing in yourself is the best investment you will ever make. It will not only improve your life, it will improve the lives of all those around you.” – Robin S. Sharma

Confident people are always looking for new ways to improve their life.

Whether that be taking classes or reading books, confident people are always investing in themselves.

After all, the only person who can make you better is you. Whether you go to the gym or learn a new skill, confident people are always making time for self-improvement.

After all, how can you expect to make a difference in other people’s lives if you aren’t making time for yourself?

If you want to become more confident, you need to start investing in yourself. Take some time out of your day to do something that makes you happy.

Read a book, go for a walk, or do anything that helps you feel good. Confidence comes from within, and it all starts with you.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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