Class is a quality that is often admired and sought after, but it can be difficult to define.
Many people believe that being classy is about having good manners, being well-spoken, and knowing how to conduct oneself in social situations.
However, there are also certain things that classy people never do, and avoiding these behaviors can help anyone exude class and elegance.
In this blog post, we will explore 10 things that classy people never do, and why you shouldn’t do them either.
1. Classy people never indulge in gossip
“Gossip is just a tool to distract people who have nothing better to do from feeling jealous of those few of us still remaining with a modicum of class.” – Elizabeth Taylor
You’ll never see a classy person indulge in gossip or speak ill of others. It’s not just not their style.
They understand that spreading rumors or speaking negatively about someone else reflects poorly on them and can cause unnecessary harm.
They realize that it’s unfair on the people being gossiped about because they’re not there to defend themselves.
Instead, classy people focus on uplifting and supporting others, and they avoid engaging in negative or damaging conversations.
2. Classy individuals never lose control of their behavior
“I have a simple philosophy: Fill what’s empty. Empty what’s full. Scratch where it itches.” – Alice Roosevelt Longworth
Classy people never let themselves become too drunk or out of control in social situations.
They understand that excessive alcohol consumption can lead to poor decision-making and behavior that is unbecoming.
Instead, they enjoy alcohol in moderation and always remain in control of themselves.
This allows them to maintain their composure and grace even in social situations that involve alcohol.
3. Classy individuals always dress appropriately
“Fashion is what you’re offered four times a year by designers. And style is what you choose.” – Lauren Hutton
Classy people never dress or behave in a way that is overly sexual or revealing.
They understand that their clothing and behavior should be appropriate for the occasion and should not draw undue attention to their bodies.
Instead, they dress modestly and tastefully, and they carry themselves with confidence and poise.
This means a classy person is respected and admired for their intelligence and capabilities, rather than just their appearance.
4. Classy people never let their aggression get the best of them
“If you want to be aggressive, be aggressive in your work and in your hobbies. But never be aggressive with people.” – John D. Rockefeller
You’ll never see a classy person become too competitive or aggressive in their interactions with others.
They understand that trying to win or dominate at all costs can damage relationships and create unnecessary conflict.
Instead, they approach social situations with a sense of collaboration and cooperation, and they strive to find win-win solutions.
This allows them to build strong, positive relationships and create a more harmonious environment.
5. Classy individuals never brag or boast
“Modesty is the gentle art of enhancing your charm by pretending not to be aware of it.” – Oliver Herford
Bragging or self-aggrandizement are not a classy person’s style.
They understand that boasting about their accomplishments or possessions can come across as insecure and arrogant, and it can make others feel uncomfortable.
Classy people always let their actions and achievements speak for themselves, and they give credit to others when appropriate.
This means they’re humble and gracious, and focus on doing the best work they can do, rather than focusing on outside acknowledgements.
6. Classy individuals maintain their composure in all situations
“The mark of a great man is one who knows when to set aside the important things in order to accomplish the vital ones.” – Brandon Sanderson
Classy people are known for their poise and grace, even in challenging situations.
They never let their emotions get the best of them, and they always maintain their composure.
This means that they never lash out in anger or frustration, and they never let their emotions cloud their judgment.
Instead, they remain calm, collected, and composed, no matter what life throws their way.
7. Classy people never speak ill of others
“It is only the great hearted who can be true friends. The mean and cowardly can never know what true friendship means.” – Charles Kingsley
Classy people never speak ill of others behind their backs.
They realize that it is unkind and unfair to criticize someone when they are not present to defend themselves.
Instead of gossiping or spreading rumors, they show respect for others and focus on positive, uplifting conversation.
They also avoid discussing sensitive or personal information about others, even with their closest friends and family members.
This high level of discretion and respect for others is another characteristic of a truly classy individual.
It shows that they have strong moral values and that they treat others with kindness and consideration.
8. Classy individuals always show respect for others
“The greatest compliment that was ever paid me was when one asked me what I thought, and attended to my answer.” – Henry David Thoreau
You’ll never see a classy person make someone else feel uncomfortable or disrespected.
They understand the importance of treating others with kindness and consideration, and they always strive to create a positive and welcoming environment for those around them.
This means that they avoid making inappropriate comments or jokes, and they never engage in behavior that might make others feel uncomfortable or embarrassed.
They also avoid dominating conversations or monopolizing others’ time, and they always listen attentively to what others have to say.
By showing respect for others and being mindful of their feelings, classy individuals create a sense of community and connection with those around them.
9. Classy individuals never engage in tasteless or offensive activities
“I have always felt that the actions of men are the best interpreters of their thoughts.” – John Locke
Classy people never indulge in activities that are tasteless or offensive.
They have a strong sense of what is appropriate and what is not, and they always strive to conduct themselves in a manner that is respectful and dignified.
This means that they avoid engaging in activities that might be seen as vulgar or inappropriate, such as telling dirty jokes or making offensive comments.
They also avoid participating in activities that are illegal or harmful to others, such as drinking and driving or engaging in violent behavior.
10. Classy people always put others first
“It’s when you’re acting selflessly that you are at your bravest.” ―Veronica Roth
Classy people never put their own desires or needs above those of others.
They are selfless and considerate, and they always strive to put the needs of others before their own.
This means that they are willing to sacrifice their own time and comfort to help others, and they are always looking for ways to lend a helping hand.
They also avoid being selfish or greedy, and they never take more than their fair share of resources or opportunities.
By putting the needs of others first, classy individuals demonstrate their high level of empathy and their commitment to being a positive force in the world.
Love yourself first and everything else falls into place
It may sound conceited or narcissistic to focus on loving yourself first. But it’s not.
The point isn’t to believe you’re better than others or to accept things about yourself that you really do need to change.
It’s about developing a healthy and nurturing relationship with… you!
Loving yourself is about committing to who you are, understanding the many different nuances to your identity, and showing yourself a level of care and intimacy that we usually reserve for other people.
Unfortunately, we’re not taught how to love ourselves from an early age. And we end up caring about what others think of us rather than focusing on what we need at a more fundamental level.
This is why we partnered with Rudá Iandê to produce a free masterclass on transforming our relationships through the practice of self-love.
It’s currently playing on The Vessel (one of our partners) but only for a limited time.
Thousands have attended and told us that the masterclass has completely transformed their relationships for the better.
It’s a must-watch and we couldn’t recommend it more highly.