Twin flames—two halves of a single soul; an unbreakable, sacred union.
The connection between twin flames is cosmically intense, both physically and spiritually.
This bond is so strong that twin flames often sense what the other is feeling. They are always keenly aware of the other’s mental and emotional states.
This fascinates and intrigues a lot of people.
You may find yourself asking: Does my twin flame know what I’m thinking about them? Are they able to if I’m emotionally pulling away from them?
Below we’ll discuss everything you need to know about whether or not your twin flame can feel when you’re getting distant.
Can your twin flame feel you pulling away or growing more distant?
The short answer is yes.
They can and will, at least, to some capacity.
Most twin flame relationships consist of two people who “play roles” of the runner and the chaser.
Once you’ve passed the initial vibrant and intense relationship stage, the feelings will decrease.
It sounds scary, but it’s the norm.
At this point, the runner will gradually grow emotionally distant, and it will sabotage the relationship in many ways.
Eventually, the chaser will put even more effort into keeping the relationship going, but it’ll have the opposite effect, and the runner will finally initiate a proper separation.
This is where it gets very painful, and if you aren’t approaching these dynamics in a healthy way, your relationship may end forever.
So yes, your twin flame will surely feel that you’re pulling away emotionally.
While ending a relationship will always be painful—and it’s even more devastating when it’s a twin flame relationship—this isn’t entirely a bad thing.
Here’s the thing with twin flame relationships: they’re cosmically determined.
You are two halves of the same soul so being together is in your nature.
However, the breakup may take place because one or both of you are simply not ready to experience something of such intensity.
While you’re not meant to be together just yet, trust that you will reunite again sometime in the future—whether it’s in this lifetime or in another one, you will simply have to see.
Now that you have an idea of what the future holds, it’s best to be prepared for it.
Generally speaking, a twin flame relationship has 8 stages. Let’s take a look at each of them and what usually happens when you choose to pull away at that stage.
A twin-flame relationship: the 8 main stages
As we go through these 8 stages, you’ll gain a greater understanding—both of why you’re pulling away and what your twin flame will feel about it.
1) The meeting
You’re single, lonely, and frustrated. You’ve spent years and years dating and in several relationships that just didn’t work out for one reason or another.
You’re desperate to finally find “the one.” You search achingly for the one you’ll settle down with, your true other half.
Then you meet them…
You have a feeling, just a tiny little hunch, that they might be “the one”.
This feeling isn’t arbitrary or baseless. On a deep unconscious and spiritual level, you could sense that you finally met your twin flame for the first time—or, unbeknownst to you, reunite with them after splitting in a past life.
During this stage, you’re actually preparing yourself for this cosmic reunion.
For many people, including myself, this involves some sort of self-discovery. You’ll be more self-aware and have a better understanding of yourself and others.
If you pull away from your twin flame during this stage, you’ll simply let your fears guide you and avoid potentially one of the most powerful feelings you could’ve ever felt.
2) The “it’s them” stage
You look into their eyes, and you know…
You’ll definitely remember this moment for the rest of your life.
This is when you find yourself standing with your twin flame in one room, seeing and interacting with them for a bit longer.
You’ll instantly feel that they aren’t just another stranger.
The exact feeling will be different from person to person. It depends on countless amount of factors like:
- How old you are;
- Your past experiences with love;
- How spiritual you are;
- If your twin flame is also your soulmate.
But you’ll just simply know it when it happens.
It is unusually intense, and you’ll feel it on all levels: physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
In my experience, you’ll feel the spark within you. Like there’s energy coursing through you or feel vibrations rumbling throughout your very being.
Oh, it’s magical…
You may feel like a completely different person, but at the same time, you’ll also feel like you’ve finally found your true self.
Recognizing your twin flame will make you feel like your life is split into two distinct halves: the life you were familiar with before meeting your twin flame and the life you are about to live with them.
These feelings might hit you like a truck in an instant.
Or they may slowly occur over time as you spend more time with your twin flame. Regardless, this strong uncanny bond you feel with them will never go away once you’ve met your twin flame.
So how can you separate from someone at this stage?
Well, because meeting one’s twin flame is such an intense experience, it can be too overwhelming for you.
You might feel the need to run away from this person in one way or another, potentially never meeting them again (at least in this lifetime).
What happens if you leave them right there and never speak to them again?
You might feel some sort of relief, but you’ll probably feel like you missed out on something, regret that you ran away, or will wonder what would happen if you stayed to get to know the person better.
You’ll live your life just fine, but the feeling of “what if?” will never leave the recesses of your heart.
Your twin flame will feel the exact same thing.
3) The falling in
Now that you’ve met them, you’ll get to know them.
Then you’ll befriend them.
But from the very beginning, your attraction to each other is simply through the roof, and in no time, you’ll be madly in love.
You’ll fall so hard—harder than you have ever (and will ever)—fall for someone.
It’ll like you’re losing yourself or going insane with how hard you love them. And you’re falling for them harder each day too. Some people might try to resist this feeling, but most will succumb.
At the same time, however, you also feel like you’ve found your other half (because you have!).
Most people do not pull away at this stage because of how euphoric it feels. Everything will simply feel perfect.
But if you do pull away, you’re doing it out of doubt and fear.
You likely feel like you’re “losing” yourself more than you are “finding.”
You’ll start questioning yourself as well as your twin flame. You’ll question if what you feel is true love or just extreme infatuation.
Your twin flame will be painfully confused. One day you were out having the best date ever, and the next day you were suddenly distant, cold, and doubtful.
They could fully sense that you’re madly in love with them, though.
They’ll start questioning themselves:
- Did I do something wrong?
- Were they faking their feelings for me?
- Was I just being used for sex?
- Was I being led on or played with?
It’ll be painful, but you’ll both move on.
However, as with the past stage, that nagging feeling will always remain, and your partner will most probably reminisce wistfully about you as “the one that got away.”
4) The falling out
If you stayed after the temptation to leave in the previous stage, you’d find yourself deep into the relationship. Months. Years. Maybe even a decade or two.
You feel happy. Your intense love for each other is still there, but the boiling has slowed down to a nice consistent simmer. You feel like you truly know each other not just as people but as souls.
This is what you wanted…
It’s nice, happy, and comfortable.
But… maybe a bit too comfortable. A standstill occurs. You start taking each other for granted.
Or perhaps things get difficult with the problems of daily realities. You could still feel that intense spiritual love, but for some reason, it’s getting harder and harder to manifest and express that love concretely.
Slowly but surely, intentionally or unintentionally, one person (likely you if you’re reading this) grows more distant.
Your partner feels hurt and abandoned.
They thought that your unbreakable bond would power through tough moments just like these.
They thought that you’d be there for each other.
But no, you might express something like a need for more space and solitude. Or maybe you just can’t help but start pulling away without a word.
They’re perplexed and absolutely depressed. They try to talk it out and look for answers and solutions.
But there are no answers. Only deep, heartwrenching pain that something they’ve invested so much of their time, effort, and soul in is in danger.
5) The running and the chasing
As you go deeper and deeper into turmoil, you’ll find that your relationship has evolved into a new dynamic.
One will be the runner. As they pull away, they’ll usually:
- Talk less;
- Want more space or “time off”;
- Become less romantic and affectionate;
- Express less of their emotions.
The other will be the chaser, who’s always:
- Trying to ask the runner if they’re okay;
- Trying to lighten up the mood;
- Trying to find solutions to the relationship’s problems;
- Trying to reignite intimacy.
As you can see, the keyword here is “trying.”
The chaser will keep chasing, but the runner will also keep running. The chaser never truly catches up to the runner…
Tension keeps escalating, and the runner will eventually start to truly run away from the relationship.
Eventually, the chaser might stop chasing too.
They’re too exhausted from chasing, realizing that they can do nothing but watch in existential despair as their most treasured relationship starts to crumble.
But that raises the question:
Why does love so often start out great, only to become a nightmare?
And what’s the solution to having your heart broken once you’ve just opened it up to the new beautiful feeling?
I met my twin flame when I was 19. Now, I see that it was too early for us to build something meaningful so young.
But at the same time, I often ask myself, what could’ve happened if I knew certain things about relationships back then?
Would we still be together if I knew it?
The answer is contained in the relationship you have with yourself.
I learned about this from the renowned shaman Rudá Iandê.
His teachings are about seeing through the lies we tell ourselves about love, and becoming truly empowered.
It doesn’t really matter at what age you meet your twin flame. It can happen very early in your life or when you already grew some grey hair.
The most important thing is where you are in terms of your relationship with yourself.
As Rudá explains in this mind-blowing free video, love is not what many of us think it is. In fact, many of us are actually self-sabotaging our love lives without realizing it!
This applies to relationships with our twin flames too!
Far too often, we chase an idealized image of someone and build up expectations that are guaranteed to be let down.
Even if it’s your twin flame, they aren’t perfect!
Within such an intensive relationship, it’s easy to fall into codependent roles of savior and victim to try to “fix” our partner, only to end up in a miserable, bitter routine.
Far too often, we are on shaky ground with our own selves and this carries over into toxic relationships that become hell on earth.
Rudá’s teachings showed me a whole new perspective.
While watching, I felt like someone understood my struggles to find love for the first time – and finally offered an actual, practical solution to not falling into the same trap again.
By the time these teachings found me, I was in my late thirties. I was done with the unsuccessful relationships and painful breakups. If this sounds like you, too, this is a message you need to hear.
6) The dissolution
Now, your relationship truly dissolves.
You mutually agree to part ways—at least, that’s the best-case scenario.
Worst, the runner simply disappears, and the chaser is left to pick up after the mess.
There is not much to say here. The relationship is just now over.
The chaser might deeply regret doing it, but they’re paralyzed by all the complex and contradictory emotions that they are likely overwhelmed by.
Similarly, the runner will be in crippling depression, struggling to accept the fact the relationship is over.
Both of you will be in despair and emotionally damaged. It’s not an understatement that you just might question if your life still has meaning as you go through this stage.
But remember, it is not meaningless at all.
This stage—and all the other stages, regardless of if or when you might separate—has a divine purpose.
7) The surrender
At this stage, both of you have been driven to your wits’ end, but eventually, you’ll surrender any hope of a reunion.
A deep, dull pain weighs over your entire mind and body every day, but you try your best to move on, heal, and pick up your life once again.
Still, you lack the confidence and vigor to go through life now that you’re separated. During this stage, you may even think of reuniting.
You take a step forward away from your relationship, but on some days, you can’t help but take a step back towards it. Life in general, feels meaningless and directionless for you.
In fact, it’s common for twin flames to go through these stages repeatedly in life (or over multiple lifetimes).
After all, you still love each other. And the both of you know that you still love each other.
You’re twin flames, after all.
You’ll always be cosmically drawn to each other as two halves of one soul.
8) The oneness of twin flames
And because of this, it’s inevitable that you’ll be back together.
You simply cannot exist without the other—you’re each other’s half!
Previous insecurities, pains, and traumas heal, and the relationship will restart and truly flourish.
This is the final stage of the cycle.
It occurs when you achieve self-realization as an individual, fully healing from the past and discovering yourself fully.
Your souls enter into complete vibrational alignment, allowing you to truly see and understand each other on a spiritual level.
It’ll feel like coming home. The connection will be even stronger, but it’ll also feel more peaceful and natural now.
You and your twin flame will commit to building a life, facing the future, and fulfilling your divine purpose together, hand in hand, as the one single soul you are.
But remember: while this is bound to happen, it may or may not happen in this lifetime.
What’ll happen when I pull away?
Twin flames are inexplicably drawn to each other. As I said above, if one starts to pull or run away, the other will feel the need to chase them.
However, on Earth, we are all only humans, and the chaser will eventually get tired and quit the pursuit.
This signals the end, where the two of you give up the relationship.
While extremely painful, time away from each other may allow you to find yourselves as individuals. It’s an opportunity for you to focus on the necessary inner work, letting the future come as it does.
Even if you are aware of the existence of twin flames and the fact that you are destined to reunite, this reunion will not happen if you do not heal yourself and rediscover your purpose with the divine.
- Fully healing;
- Overcoming our ego;
- Conquering our fears;
- Mastering ourselves;
- And, most importantly, aligning ourselves with our divine purpose;
…will the universe allow twin flames to reunite.
This is why the twin flames might get stuck in the stages before their ultimate reunion.
They might need to go through it multiple times over the course of several lifetimes before they are able to achieve self-actualization and be eligible for the final reunion.
However, how easy is it to actually become the best version of yourself?
When I had a painful breakup last year, I felt like I was not living my life aligned with a deeper sense of purpose.
This was a very surprising revelation!
I felt frustrated and dissatisfied and completely not connected with my inner self.
Even though I wanted to love and feel loved again, I felt that it’s difficult to build another relationship with a new partner when you’re not feeling in sync.
I learned a new way to discover my purpose after watching Ideapod co-founder Justin Brown’s video on the hidden trap of improving yourself.
As to him, most people misunderstand how to find their purpose using visualization and other self-help techniques.
He believes that visualization isn’t the best way to find your purpose.
Instead, there’s a new way to do it, which Justin Brown learned from spending time with a shaman in Brazil.
After watching the video, I discovered my purpose in life, and it dissolved my feelings of frustration and dissatisfaction.
I knew I was capable of many wonderful thighs, and I started to believe I an achieve whatever I set my mind to in no time!
This helped me to heal from the breakup faster and build a new healthy relationship with my current partner.
Before you pull away from this article
Twin flame relationships are some of the most beautiful things you can experience in life.
However, they can also be some of the most painful due to the inevitable separation phases.
Before you can reconnect in true harmony, you need to first grow emotionally and spiritually. Only with such maturity will your souls be able to truly reunite.
However, this is perhaps the most important part: some twin flames are simply not destined to be permanent romantic partners in Earthly life.
The two halves of one soul do not always need to reunite in such a way.
Sometimes, they are not the divine purpose assigned to us—and that’s completely okay.
Sometimes, they’re just a part of our growing process as we strive for divine self-actualization.
And that’s the ultimate goal.
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