11 behaviors that instantly make you more attractive

Whether you admit it or not, deep down, we all want to be more attractive.

And it’s not surprising.

Studies show that attractive individuals are happier, better at building relationships, and even more likely to get hired.

Don’t worry if you’re not blessed with natural beauty – physical attractiveness is only a small part of the whole package.

The good news is, you can make yourself more attractive by learning some simple behaviors.

So let’s take a look at these 11 highly effective hacks that boost your attractiveness!

1) A brilliant sense of humor

Time and time again, across multiple studies, humor is listed as a top trait when it comes to being attractive.

If you can make someone laugh, you immediately make them feel more relaxed and happier.

Laughing makes your brain release endorphins that can even relieve stress.

No wonder humor is attractive!

And humor is something that can actually be studied, practiced, and perfected.

No, I’m not talking about memorizing cringe dad jokes here.

Instead, try to learn what makes things funny (clue – it’s the unexpected surprise in the punchline that makes us laugh) and work on your timing and delivery.

2) Confidence

When you act confidently, you’re actually signaling achievement and success, which is extremely attractive to both friends and romantic interests.

But don’t get confused.

Being confident isn’t about being arrogant or boasting about how great you are (yawn).

It’s about understanding your strengths and weaknesses, self-awareness, and not being afraid to act on your decisions.

When confidence is unfounded or consistently misplaced, it can have the complete opposite effect and actually make you less attractive. So be careful with this one, and always maintain a good level of humility.

3) Good listener

Have you ever been halfway through telling a passionate story when you realize your partner has stopped listening?

It’s frustrating, right?

Being a good listener makes you more attractive because it strengthens the bond between you and the speaker. Asking follow-up questions and showing interest fosters connection and understanding.

Everybody wants to speak but few people want to really listen.

Make this your superpower – it’s easy!

Just have patience and try to be in the moment. Focus on what is being said and put yourself in their shoes.

You have one mouth and two ears for a reason.

4) Kindness

There can be a lot of hate in the world.

Stand out from the crowd by being kind to others. It’ll not only make people feel valued but also shows your positive character in good light (which can be contiguous).

And it’s the small things that count.

Whether you give up your seat on the bus, help an elderly person across the road, or just generally have good manners and treat people with respect, you’ll be sure to leave a lasting impression.

Kindness creates trust and can lift the spirits of those around you. There’s no doubt it makes you more attractive and fun to be around.

5) Open-Mindedness

Being accepting of other people and their opinions or actions can have a huge positive impact on your attractiveness.

Because let’s face it, stubborn narrow-minded people can be draining.

You know the type. They just can’t be argued with.

But when you have an open mind, you let your creativity loose, and you consider all the options without prejudice, which in turn automatically helps you become a better listener.

Other people will want to spend more time with you, to share their ideas and hear your feedback.

6) Positivity

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Life isn’t always a bed of roses, but that doesn’t mean you can’t maintain a positive outlook.

In fact, if you’re able to look on the bright side even in the most challenging situations, people will flock towards you like bees to honey.

Your positivity, strength of character, and optimism will shine like a beacon to all those around you.

As it’s incredibly attractive!

But don’t deny reality either. Focus on solutions not problems and highlight opportunities, not risks.

7) Passion

Passion is about excitement, enthusiasm, and energy, which all do wonders for your attractiveness because it demonstrates direction and purpose in life.

It’s also infectious.

When you’re around passionate people, you believe you can be anything you want to be. The sky’s the limit.

But this isn’t something that can be faked.

Find something in life that lights the fire in your belly, then don’t be afraid to express it. Chase down that dream and let your enthusiasm run wild.

8) Integrity

Do you seriously think people will want to be around you if you can’t be trusted?

No, it doesn’t work like that.

Having integrity means being honest and having strong moral principles.

This will make people naturally drawn to you and come to rely on you over time.

To build respect in both professional and personal relationships, always stick to your values, speak up for what you believe in, and be consistent with it.

You’ll soon get the reputation of a stand-up guy or gal with a solid character.

9) Independence

Great leaders, confident pioneers, and trailblazers are all incredibly attractive and all have one big thing in common – independence!

It shows one important thing about you.

That you’re comfortable being alone and don’t require validation from others.

This makes you particularly alluring to people who value authenticity.

There are different ways to be independent. From having individual interests and goals to taking a unique and unconventional direction in life.

10) Empathy

Have you ever been in the situation where your friends just don’t ‘get it’?

Either they’re not interested, or they just can’t relate.

Wouldn’t it be nice if someone actually cared?

Being empathetic to others helps you to build meaningful relationships. Showing that you both understand and care about other people’s feelings is a great way to appear more attractive.

You can demonstrate your empathy through attentive listening, not judging people, and showing genuine concern.

11) Adaptability

If you can remain unflustered and adapt well to changing situations, people will be drawn towards you.

And that’s not all.

Adaptable people are generally seen as more approachable and friendly. They embrace new experiences and have a positive outlook.

Life doesn’t always go according to plan. Sometimes it’s completely out of your control. Rather than become agitated or stressed, try to be resilient.

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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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