As a boss mom, I prided myself on doing it all. People admired me for juggling kids and a career. The reality? I yearned for a simpler, more intentional life with my family.

Even before I became a mom, I was acing the corporate world. I climbed the corporate ladder with determination and skill, taking on leadership roles and proving my mettle in a male-dominated industry. People admired me, and truthfully, I was proud of my achievements.

Then motherhood happened. I found myself juggling board meetings with pediatrician appointments, conference calls with school pick-ups. “Supermom,” they called me, amazed at how seamlessly I juggled my kids and career.

From the outside looking in, it seemed like I had it all together. But the reality? Behind the closed doors of my home, I yearned for something different – a simpler, more intentional life with my family. The glorified image of “doing it all” began to lose its sheen over time. The constant hustle left me drained and yearning for simplicity.

This realization led me to question everything. Was it possible to strike a balance between my professional ambitions and my desire for a simpler family life? Could I let go of the guilt associated with not being able to do it all? And most importantly, was it okay to choose a different path than what society deemed admirable?

What followed was an enlightening journey that drastically changed my perspective on work-life balance and redefined what success meant to me. And now, as I navigate through this new terrain, both at work and home, I am eager to share my discoveries about this often misunderstood notion of “having it all.”

Discovering the longing for a simpler life

As I continued to navigate the demanding dual roles of boss and mom, a nagging feeling started to grow within me. It was a longing for something different, for something simpler.

One evening, after a particularly grueling day at work followed by a chaotic bedtime routine, I found myself sitting alone in the quiet of my home. As I looked around at the toys scattered on the floor and the unread emails on my phone, the reality hit me – I was missing out on the very thing I was working so hard for – quality time with my family.

This realization didn’t come with an immediate solution. It took months of introspection, self-doubt, and countless conversations with my partner before I dared to admit what I truly yearned for – a more intentional life with my children.

I knew this meant making changes. It meant reprioritizing responsibilities, letting go of certain career ambitions, and most importantly, redefining what success meant to me.

In taking those steps, I started to see a shift in my life. And in the next section, I’ll delve into why society’s definition of “having it all” as a working mom can be misleading and how I’ve come to understand what it truly means for me.

Challenging the concept of “having it all”

When it comes to working moms, society has a predefined notion of success – escalating the corporate ladder while managing a perfect home life. This idea of “having it all” is presented as a badge of honor, a testament to a woman’s strength and resilience.

But here’s where I challenge this concept. In striving to “have it all”, I realized that I was spreading myself too thin. In my quest to be the do-it-all supermom, I was sacrificing the very essence of what mattered most to me – meaningful moments with my family.

This revelation did not come easy. It went against everything that society had instilled in me about being a successful working mother. But I knew deep down that this narrative needed to change, not just for me, but for all the working moms feeling the pressure to live up to this unrealistic standard.

The truth is, “having it all” doesn’t necessarily equate to happiness or fulfillment. It’s not about juggling everything perfectly; it’s about choosing what truly matters to you and focusing on that.

Transitioning to a more intentional life

Making the shift from trying to “have it all” to living a more intentional life didn’t happen overnight. It was a process of self-discovery and conscious decision-making.

The first step was acknowledging what I truly wanted – more quality time with my family. I started by consciously carving out time in my schedule to be fully present with my children. Whether it was reading bedtime stories, cooking together, or simply engaging in their play, these moments became non-negotiables in my daily routine.

Next, I had to reassess my professional commitments. This involved difficult conversations and tough decisions, but ultimately, I decided to scale back on work and delegate more responsibilities. The goal was to find a balance that allowed me to fulfill my professional duties without compromising on my family time.

If you are a working mom feeling the pressure of “having it all”, know that it’s okay to crave simplicity amidst the chaos. And most importantly, it’s okay to prioritize what truly matters to you.

Embracing a more holistic way of thinking

My journey through this transition was more than just about finding a balance between work and family. It was about taking responsibility for my life, understanding the influences that shaped my beliefs, and ultimately, choosing to live on my terms.

I had to acknowledge my dissatisfaction with trying to “have it all” – a concept that I had accepted without question. I realized that this was not my fault but a result of societal conditioning. Once I took responsibility for this, I felt empowered to change my circumstances.

Next, I had to face the reality of my situation. There’s no use in blind positivity; acknowledging the struggles and challenges was essential for genuine growth.

The most liberating part? Learning to think for myself and questioning societal expectations. This helped me align my life with what truly mattered to me, rather than what was externally imposed.

Here are the key points from my journey:

  • Acknowledge your dissatisfaction with trying to “have it all”.
  • Take responsibility for your life and situation.
  • Understand that your beliefs may be shaped by societal expectations.
  • Face the reality of your situation without resorting to blind positivity.
  • Learn to think for yourself and question societal norms.
  • Redefine success on your terms.

Always remember, your life should never be centered on meeting someone else’s expectations except your own. You hold the power to reshape your reality and craft a life that resonates with your authentic self.

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Eliza Hartley

Eliza Hartley, a London-based writer, is passionate about helping others discover the power of self-improvement. Her approach combines everyday wisdom with practical strategies, shaped by her own journey overcoming personal challenges. Eliza's articles resonate with those seeking to navigate life's complexities with grace and strength.

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