I met someone online who actually seems perfect. We met on discord and quickly exchanged handles, finding out that we share the same interests, values, and sense of humor. We talk for hours and hours every day, and I feel like I’ve known them my whole life. But, the catch: we live in different countries, and so far, they’ve always come up with excuses for why we can’t video chat or meet in person. I’m not going to lie, everything seems a little too good to be true and I’m starting to wonder if they’re catfishing me. How can I find out the truth and protect myself without ruining what feels like a genuine connection? – Anon
Dear Anon,
It’s fantastic that you’ve found someone who seems to connect with you on such a deep level.
Those sparks of connection online can be exhilarating, especially when they feel so rare and special. And hey, who doesn’t love a good long chat with someone who gets them?
But, and this is a big but, let’s pump the brakes a little. I’m all for embracing those butterflies, but it’s also crucial to keep your feet firmly planted on the ground, especially when the relationship exists solely in the digital realm.
Ultimately, the internet is a fantastic place to connect, but it’s also a playground for those with less-than-honest intentions.
So, here’s the deal: until you’ve seen this person’s face on a video call or met them in person, tread carefully. I know it’s tempting to get swept up in the romance, but prioritize your safety and peace of mind. Gently but firmly insist on a video chat. If they continue to make excuses, that’s a major red flag. A genuine connection shouldn’t shy away from the light of day.
And even if you do video chat or eventually meet, take precautions. Meet in a public place, let a friend know where you’ll be, and trust your instincts. If something feels off, don’t hesitate to walk away.
Remember, a real connection can withstand the test of reality. Don’t let the allure of the online world blind you to potential dangers. Protect yourself, and don’t rush into anything until you’re absolutely sure of who you’re dealing with.
Keep your heart open, but keep your wits about you.
Evie
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