9 signs you’re actually becoming a classier person (even if you don’t realize it)

We all go through changes in our lives, like becoming a better version of ourselves. Sometimes, these changes happen slowly, and we don’t even notice them.

You might wonder if you’ve improved or if you’re still doing the same old things. You might not be sure if your experiences have made you a better person.

So, how can you tell if you’re really getting better, or if you’re just going through life without any big changes?

After observing my own growth and the evolution of those around me, I’ve identified 9 signs that could serve as a mirror to reflect your personal progression.

These signs may help you realize that you’re becoming classier, even if it doesn’t feel like it.

1. You’ve Developed a Taste for Quality Over Quantity

One of the first signs that you’re becoming classier is when you start to value quality over quantity.

It could be in the clothes you wear, the food you eat, or even the people you choose to spend time with.

In the past, perhaps you were drawn to fast fashion, fast food, or sought validation from large groups of people.

However, as you become classier, you begin to appreciate the craftsmanship of a well-tailored suit, the flavors of a carefully prepared meal, or the depth and richness of conversations with a close-knit group of friends.

This shift is not about becoming snobbish or elitist.

It’s about understanding and appreciating the value of things that are made with care and intention.

It’s about choosing to invest your time and resources in experiences and relationships that enrich your life instead of merely filling it.

So next time you find yourself gravitating towards quality over sheer quantity, take it as a sign of your growing classiness.

You’re learning to appreciate the finer things in life – not just for their price tag or status symbol, but for their intrinsic worth and the joy they bring to your life.

2. You’re Becoming more Respectful of Others

Classiness isn’t just about what you wear or what you own; it’s also about how you treat others.

Once upon a time, your patience used to run thin and you didn’t hesitate to show it.

If someone was late for a meeting or if they didn’t get back to you straight away, it would get on your nerves and you’d let them know about it.

But recently, you’ve been feeling more patient and understanding.

You’re giving people the benefit of the doubt more often and are less quick to judge.

Your tolerance for people’s mistakes has grown and you’re more patient with their shortcomings.

You’ve realized that everyone is dealing with their own battles and that’s made you kinder, considerate, and respectful – all clear signs of becoming classier.

This isn’t just about manners – it’s about empathy and understanding, qualities that are at the heart of true classiness.

3. You’re Learning How to Handle Criticism Gracefully

Another sign that you’re becoming classier is your ability to handle criticism with grace and poise.

This is something I’ve personally experienced and can vouch for its impact on personal growth.

In my younger years, I often found myself reacting to criticism defensively, or worse, retaliating with harsh words of my own.

I saw it as a personal attack, a challenge to my worth or abilities.

But as I grew older and hopefully a bit wiser, I began to see criticism in a different light.

I remember a specific incident at work where my manager pointed out a mistake in a project I was leading.

Instead of lashing out or making excuses as I might have done in the past, I took a deep breath, thanked my manager for pointing out the error and took responsibility for fixing it.

This wasn’t an easy change, and it didn’t happen overnight.

But over time, I’ve come to see criticism as an opportunity for growth rather than an attack.

It’s about listening carefully, acknowledging the feedback without taking it personally, and using it as a tool for improvement.

If you find yourself handling criticism better than you used to, with less defensiveness and more openness, then take this as a sign of your growing classiness.

It means you’re developing emotional maturity and self-confidence, attributes that are indeed hallmarks of a classy individual.

4. You’re Cultivating Patience and Delayed Gratification

Getting classier means you’re getting better at waiting patiently.

Here’s a surprising fact: People who can wait for good things tend to do well in life.

They do better in school, and they have better relationships.

When you were younger, you might have wanted things right away.

But as you become classier, you start to see the value in waiting for the right time.

It’s like waiting for good wine to taste even better, or taking your time to build strong friendships.

Maybe you’re working hard on a big goal without expecting quick results.

In a world filled with fast and short-lived pleasures, there’s something truly valuable in being patient and waiting for the good stuff.

So, if you’re becoming classier by cultivating patience and resisting the allure of instant gratification, you’re not only on the path to a more refined you but also setting the stage for a more fulfilling and successful life in the long run.

5. You’re Prioritising Self-Care

One sign that I am becoming classier (hopefully) that I’ve noticed in myself is the increased dedication to self-care.

Rather than seeing it as a luxury or an indulgence, I’ve started to view it as a necessity and an act of self-respect.

I remember a time when my life was all about work, deadlines, and trying to please everyone around me.

I neglected my own needs and well-being, thinking that this was the only way to be successful and valued. It wasn’t until I started experiencing signs of burnout that I realised something had to change.

This was when I began to make self-care a priority.

I started scheduling time for exercise, ensuring I ate well-balanced meals, and made sure to have downtime where I could relax and rejuvenate.

I know it might isn’t easy at first, but over time, these habits became part of your routine.

It’s not just about physical health; it’s also about taking care of your mental and emotional well-being.

This could be anything from practicing mindfulness to ensuring you have quality ‘me-time’ doing things you love.

And if you find yourself prioritising self-care more than before, see it as a sign of your growing classiness.

6. Your Communication Skills are Improving

Did you know that your ability to effectively communicate is directly linked to perceptions of class and sophistication?

It’s true.

You might have noticed that you’re becoming a better listener, focusing more on understanding others rather than just waiting for your turn to speak.

You’re also articulating your thoughts more clearly, making sure you’re understood, but not overdoing it.

You’ve started avoiding gossip and petty talk, choosing instead to engage in meaningful conversations.

This shift in the way you communicate doesn’t just make you appear classier, it actually makes you a better friend, colleague, and overall person.

7. You’re Embracing Quiet Confidence

Getting classier often means that you’re becoming quietly confident, and this kind of confidence doesn’t have to be loud or showy to be real.

Imagine a person who knows they are good at something but doesn’t feel the need to boast or brag about it.

They’re just sure of themselves and their abilities.

That’s what quiet confidence is all about.

Now, think about a time when you might have wanted others to notice and praise you constantly. Maybe you did things just to get attention from others.

That’s the opposite of quiet confidence.

So, if you’re noticing that you don’t need to show off or seek attention all the time, that’s a sign of growing classiness.

It means you’re getting more comfortable with who you are, and you don’t need others to tell you how great you are.

You believe in yourself, and that’s something truly classy.

8. You’re Developing a Better Relationship with Money

Becoming classier isn’t just about having more money in your bank account.

It’s about having a good relationship with money.

Imagine money as a friend.

Now, think about how you treat your friends.

Do you treat them well, with respect and care?

Or do you use them and forget about them when you’re done?

Having a good relationship with money is a bit like being a good friend to it.

It’s about using money wisely, not wasting it on things you don’t really need, and making it work for you.

Classiness also means understanding that money isn’t just about buying things.

It’s about having the freedom to do the things you love, like taking a vacation, helping others, or pursuing your passions.

If you’re learning to be a better friend to your money by budgeting, investing, and seeing its value beyond material things, that’s a sign of growing classiness.

It’s like building a strong and trustworthy friendship with money that will benefit you in the long run.

9. You’ve Started Caring More about The World around You

There’s a shift happening within you, a growing awareness of the world beyond your immediate circle.

You’re becoming more in tune with global issues, current events, and the plights of those less fortunate.

This newfound global perspective is making you more empathetic and understanding.

It’s inspiring you to take action, to make a difference in whatever way you can.

Whether it’s as simple as recycling more diligently, or taking up volunteering, every little bit counts.

This is a sure sign of becoming classier – because true class extends beyond our own lives and encompasses a genuine concern for others and the world we live in.

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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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