9 rare signs you’re highly respected by people (even if they don’t say it)

Being respected by others is an amazing feeling, but it’s not always easy to tell if you truly are. Respect isn’t about constant praise or overt displays of admiration.

In fact, the signs of respect can be incredibly subtle, and often, people might respect you without ever explicitly stating it.

Being able to recognize these signs can give you a boost in confidence and a clearer understanding of your impact on those around you.

Let’s dive into the nine rare indicators that show you’re highly regarded by people, even when they don’t say it out loud.

1) People listen when you speak

One of the most subtle yet powerful signs of respect is when people genuinely listen when you’re speaking.

In a world where everyone is fighting to have their voice heard, it’s a big deal when people quiet down, put their phones away, and give you their undivided attention.

This doesn’t mean they always agree with everything you say, but they value your opinion enough to truly hear it. They recognize your knowledge, wisdom, or insight and see value in understanding your perspective.

When you’re in a group setting, pay attention to how others behave when you speak. If they’re really listening, it’s a sure sign you’ve earned their respect.

2) They trust your judgment

Trust is a cornerstone of respect, and when people genuinely respect you, they trust your judgment.

For instance, I remember a time during a team project at work when there was a major disagreement on how to proceed. The stakes were high, and everyone had their own opinion.

However, when I voiced my perspective and suggested a solution, the team didn’t just listen; they trusted me enough to follow my plan. It wasn’t because my idea was necessarily the best, but because they respected me and trusted my judgment.

That level of trust didn’t come overnight. It was earned over time through consistent actions and reliability.

If you find people often trusting your judgment and following your advice or recommendations, take it as a sign that they highly respect you.

3) They value your time

Did you know that the way people treat your time is a clear indicator of their level of respect for you?

If someone consistently shows up late for meetings with you, or tends to cancel plans at the last minute, it could be a sign they don’t value your time as much as they should. On the other hand, if people make a point to be punctual, or even arrive early for appointments with you, it’s a clear sign they respect you.

Moreover, if they go out of their way to accommodate your schedule when making plans, it’s a strong indication of the high regard in which they hold you. Your time is precious, and those who respect you will treat it accordingly.

4) They seek your advice

When people respect you, they value your perspective and insight. This often manifests as them seeking your advice on various matters, big or small.

Whether it’s a colleague asking for your input on a project, a friend asking for your opinion on a personal matter, or even a family member seeking your wisdom on an important decision, these are all signs that you are respected.

If someone trusts you enough to help guide their decisions or actions, it shows they have a high regard for your judgement and wisdom. It’s a clear indication that you’re not only valued but highly respected.

5) They include you in important decisions

Another strong indicator of respect is being included in important decisions. When people respect you, they value your opinion and insight, and they want it to be a part of their decision-making process.

Whether it’s a friend considering a major life change, a family member planning a big event, or a colleague mapping out a project strategy, if they make it a point to include you and ask for your input, it’s a sign of their respect for you.

Being included in important decisions means that your ideas and opinions carry weight and that people trust your judgement. It’s a clear sign of the esteem they hold for you.

6) They respect your boundaries

There’s something profoundly touching about a person who respects your personal boundaries. It’s an acknowledgement of your individuality and a sign of deep respect.

When people understand and respect your need for personal space, time alone, or even your dietary choices or lifestyle decisions, it reflects their high regard for you. They see you as a person with individual needs and rights and they honor those.

Respecting boundaries isn’t about agreeing with or understanding someone’s choices, but about valuing their right to make those choices.

If you notice people in your life respecting your boundaries without question, it’s a heartfelt sign of their deep respect for you.

7) They remember the little things

There was once a period in my life when I was going through a tough time, dealing with personal issues. During this time, a close friend of mine not only offered a listening ear but also remembered small details of our conversations – my favorite comfort food, a book I mentioned wanting to read, or even a joke that made me laugh.

This wasn’t just about having a good memory. It was a clear sign of respect. This friend valued our relationship enough to pay attention to the little things and use that information to provide comfort and support when I needed it most.

When people remember small details about you or your conversations, it shows they value and respect you. It’s their way of saying “You matter to me.” If you notice this in your interactions with others, take it as a sign of their deep respect for you.

8) They give you genuine compliments

Compliments are easy to give, but genuine compliments — those that are specific and heartfelt — are a true sign of respect.

When someone takes the time to notice your strengths or acknowledge your efforts, and express it to you, it shows they respect you. They see the value in what you do and who you are.

So the next time someone gives you a compliment that feels earnest and specific, remember it’s not just flattery. It’s a sign of their respect for you.

9) They show kindness in your absence

Perhaps the most significant sign of respect is not how people treat you in your presence, but how they behave when you’re not around.

When someone speaks kindly of you, defends you, or upholds your reputation in your absence, it’s a clear indicator of their deep respect for you. They value your integrity so much that they uphold it even when you’re not there to witness it.

If you hear about such instances, or if someone tells you about a time when another person defended you or spoke highly of you when you weren’t around, know that it’s the ultimate sign of respect.

Final thoughts: Respect is silent

The beauty of respect lies in its subtlety. It is often quiet, unspoken, and demonstrated through actions rather than words.

From listening attentively when you speak to remembering the little things about you, from seeking your advice to defending your name in your absence — these are the silent languages of respect.

Recognizing these signs not only boosts our self-esteem but also helps us comprehend the profound impact we have on others, often without realizing it.

As we navigate our relationships, let’s remember that the most profound signs of respect are rarely loud or ostentatious. They are quiet, consistent, and rooted in actions that speak volumes about a person’s regard for us.

So, the next time you see any of these signs, take a moment to acknowledge the respect being shown to you. After all, respect is one of the greatest expressions of love and appreciation that one human being can show another.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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