Let’s be honest, the most awesome people are authentic people.
Nobody likes people who are fake.
But what exactly does “authentic” really mean?
Often we judge one’s authenticity by their commitment to mean what they say and say what they do.
It’s about standing up for what you believe in and speaking the truth as it seems to you.
However, humanistic psychologists say that simply believing what you say isn’t enough to be authentic.
A more important part of authenticity is to look at the character behind a person.
Here are 7 traits they say make up an authentic person:
1. Have realistic perceptions for reality.
2. Are accepting of themselves and others.
3. Are thoughtful.
4. Have a non-hostile sense of humor.
5. Are able to express their emotions freely and clearly.
6. Are open to learning from mistakes.
7. Understand their motivations.
Those 7 characteristics are what it means to be truly oneself.
However, according to psychologists, inauthentic people:
1. Are self-deceptive.
2. Look to others for approval and to feel valued.
3. Are judgmental of other people.
4. Do not think things through clearly.
5. Have a hostile sense of humor.
6. Are unable to express their emotions freely and clearly.
7. Are not open to learning from their mistakes.
8. Do not understand their motivations.
All in all, if a person is being deceptive to themselves and to what they see in the world, then they’re not being true to themselves.
Authenticity involves taking a step back from the mind and seeing reality for what it truly is. It’s about aligning your beliefs with your actions and holding yourself true to your values.
However, in the conundrum of life, it’s difficult to work out who we really are and what we really desire.
A strategy that helped me was locking myself in a room for 30 minutes and writing down what I really want in life.
Writing has a way of strucuring your thoughts and clearing your mind.
It definitely helped me and I hope it can help you.