As human beings, we know when bad means bad and good means good.
We have the capacity to differentiate between righteousness and evil, and kindness and meanness.
But why is it that dating changes the way we perceive these two opposites? For some reason, the bad guy is more attractive and the good guy is a little less appealing.
Girls are known to chase down bad guys and ignore the good guys.
Here are five reasons why bad guys always leave the good guys in the dust:
1) Bad and good lose their meaning when it comes to dating
In the real world, bad and good mean different things. We know that bad has all the horrible attributes. No one wants to go to a bad restaurant or a bad hotel. We want to eat at good establishments and have good experiences.
Dating changes all that. The bad guy becomes fun, alluring, and enticing. The good guy is unattractive, cliche, and boring.
The reason is simple:
We apply different standards of good and bad to dating because we don’t want to be with a guy that society thinks is good.
Think about it:
When someone is good, they are socially acceptable. When they are bad, they are willing to break the rules.
Breaking the rules shows that the guy is willing to take a stand. They believe in something and won’t stop at anything to get it.
We tend to find ruthlessness and audacity attractive, even though it’s at the expense of others.
2) Good becomes boring
For some reason, the good guy is often boring and uninteresting. He likes the “safe” things.
He likes hanging out with his friends, playing some sports, and doing his homework. He likes letting you know where he’s been and where he’s going. He likes taking you out to restaurants, the movies, and maybe a hockey game.
These things are great but when placed side by side the midnight car rides and the unauthorized entry to forgotten parks, bad guys seem a whole lot more exciting.
It’s not because good guys don’t know how to have fun – it’s that bad guys take fun on a whole new (sometimes illegal) level.
Doing drugs, drinking excessively, skinny dipping, trespassing. These things involve guts and the adrenaline rush that comes with it can easily be mistaken for genuine fun.
3) Bad guys are mysterious
Bad guys will never tell you what they’re up to. You don’t know what they’re thinking so much so that you’re not sure if they even actually like you.
In some weird way, this is attractive because uncertainty creates a feeling of freedom. We feel unhinged from reality, and this carelessness helps us feel light about our lives.
Without certainty, we can be whoever we want to be and act however we want to.
With bad guys, there’s a lingering feeling of nonpermance. It’s as if nothing that you do will stick to the world.
Often these bad guys seem like a vacation from our real lives; a one-off night of fun and then nothing else.
4) Movies tell us they can change
Let’s face it: we don’t always want just one night. After the bad guy sticks for a couple more days, we start thinking that maybe this could become something more. And then something else occurs in our heads: maybe we can tame the bad guy.
This challenge is appealing to most because there’s a certain pride that comes with taming the unknown.
Hollywood plays a big role in this. In movies, we see the bad guys turn good for the girl next door. Suddenly they don’t smoke, steal, or kill anymore.
Suddenly they show a vulnerable side to themselves as the screen darkens to a cinematic life revelation.
5) The drama secretly interests us
Deep down, we wish that our lives would turn into a romantic flick. Maybe the guy will go out of his way and fly 200 miles just to see you. Maybe he’ll steal the diamond ring you’ve been eyeing.
Whatever it is, we prefer the bad, the dangerous, and the destructive because it’s different.
The same things happen to us on a daily basis. We wake up, we eat, we go to work, we socialize, and we sleep. So when a stranger tells you he wants to take you on a ride on his motorcycle, it’s easier to say yes than to say no.
The bad guys offer a slice of life often inaccessible to most of us. They offer a brand new way of seeing and experiencing the world and for a moment, it feels like you’re the hero of your own movie. And who wouldn’t want that?
What to do next?
If you’re a nice guy and you want to become a more appealing man, there’s one very simple thing you can do.
You can embrace your inner beast.
You were born to be a powerful man, and society has slowly extinguished the flame of fire within. It’s now just a flicker waiting to roar to life.
You only get one chance at life and you may as well make the most of it.
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Getting the girl you deserve
It’s true that you’re a nice guy and girls rarely fall in love with nice guys. However, it doesn’t mean that you can’t get the girl you deserve.
The key to your success is becoming more confident about your actions. This all relates back to the incredible advice I learned from Kate Spring.
She’s a relationship expert and she’s transformed dating and relationships for thousands of men.
One of the most valuable things she teaches is this:
Women don’t choose the guy who will treat them the best. They choose guys they are deeply attracted to at a biological level.
Women don’t like assholes because they’re assholes. They like assholes because those guys are confident and they give off the right signals to them. The sort of signals a woman can’t resist.
What if I told you that you could quickly learn the right signals to give to women – and you absolutely don’t need to become an asshole in the process?
In it, she reveals the most effective method I’ve come across to get the girl you deserve.