Did you know that there are specific personality types of people who have a tendency to cheat on their partners in a relationship?
That’s the truth, and men are no exception.
Based on my little research and the data I’ve gained from people who’ve been cheated on, there are 3 types of men who have affairs: horny, opportunist, and frustrated cheaters.
Want to know the reasons why they cheat and how these 3 types of cheaters are different from one another?
In this article, we explore three types of men who have affairs, why they do so, and what that implies about them as people.
3 types of men who have affairs
1) The Frustrated Cheater
Ever noticed that the needs of the guy you’re dating aren’t being met?
The thing is that there are a lot of things that might frustrate men.
Maybe he feels a lack of attention from you, or he doesn’t feel emotional intimacy in your relationship, or you just don’t give him enough private space.
Or maybe you’re not giving him enough time to spend with his friends, or you’re restricting his ability to work out, eat what he wants, and hang out with his buddies.
Whatever it is, the man you’re dating just isn’t happy.
All he wants is some attention from you and some reassurance that things are going well for him in the relationship.
And if he can’t get it from you, he’ll go looking for it elsewhere.
And that’s what makes him frustrated.
Do you know what happens when a man feels his needs aren’t being met?
He starts to look for other women or men who can fulfill his needs on a sexual level, or just to have fun altogether.
This is why some guys tend to cheat on their partners with other women or men when they don’t feel loved by their partners at all times and the need for affection gets out of control.
They simply end up cheating because they’re frustrated and unhappy in their relationship, which ultimately leads them back to seek satisfaction elsewhere.
And you know what?
It doesn’t really matter whether it be from a new lover, or from another woman who has been chosen by him as an outlet for his sexual needs and desires (and in some cases, even for emotional intimacy).
In other words, a frustrated cheater will go for an affair because he’s so unhappy in the relationship that he needs something else to give him a sense of happiness and validation – namely another woman who gives him exactly what he wants.
The frustrated cheater is the type of person who is usually in a boring, unfulfilling relationship.
This type of cheater is often in a long-term, committed relationship with someone who is less attractive and/or less desirable than he’d like her to be.
As a result, this type of man who has affairs would rather break up with his partner and start a new search for someone more attractive than cheat on her with someone else.
The cheater would prefer a new partner over an affair because he believes he’d have a better chance of finding someone who is more attractive to him in the future.
3 reasons why frustrated cheaters cheat
He feels disconnected or neglected by his partner
Let’s be honest. Do you ever make your partner feel like a priority in your life?
Instead of making your partner feel like the most important person in your life, you might be doing things that put him last.
You might be spending more time with someone else, pursuing a new career opportunity, or even just plain ignoring her completely.
Believe it or not, it’s not only women who feel emotionally neglected in relationships.
Men feel neglected as well.
In fact, as studies prove, many men in multiple societies are considered the “unheard gender.”
While social workers and society, in general, are focused on protecting women from physical neglect, men feel emotionally neglected, which can lead to plenty of serious mental health consequences.
So let’s ask yourself this question once again:
Are you neglecting your partners’ needs?
You might be neglecting him by not listening to him, not paying attention to his needs and wants, or even ignoring him altogether.
If so, that’s what makes him a frustrated character who’s looking for an affair.
You see, a frustrated cheater is a person who feels as though he’s being neglected by his partner in some way.
He believes that he doesn’t get enough attention from his partner and/or that he’s not getting the love and affection that he needs from her.
So what does he do? He has an affair because the only thing that will make him feel like the most important person in someone’s life is an affair.
That’s one of the reasons why frustrated men tend to have affairs.
You never make him feel like a hero
This one might sound a bit surprising, but the truth is that one of the reasons why men feel frustrated in relationships and why they end up cheating on their partners is because they don’t feel like everyday heroes in their relationships.
Now you probably wonder what I mean by “feeling like a hero.”
Well, when I first heard about the concept of “hero instinct,” I found it a bit silly and entertaining. I mean, who doesn’t want to feel like a hero?
And besides, women don’t need heroes in their lives to be rescued or protected by men.
But when I started to think about it, I realized that women are usually more attracted to men who can provide them with these “hero” types of feelings.
That’s because they feel as though they are being rescued by the hero in their relationship.
Men don’t really need to be heroes all the time, but when they’re around their partners, women want them to feel like heroes.
How do I know this?
I’ve just watched this simple and genuine video by James Bauer where he explains the concept of the hero instinct and why women should try to trigger it in their men.
And in a way, this is not a bad thing at all.
In fact, it’s something that makes relationships work better for both genders, gives both parties what they want from the relationship, and makes them happy.
But sometimes what makes someone feel like a hero or not can make or break a relationship entirely.
And guess what?
It turns out that one of the main reasons frustrated types of men cheat is because their women don’t try to bring out their hero instinct in them.
They simply don’t feel like everyday heroes.
So, if you assume that your partner is a frustrating type, try to take care of it — trigger his hero instinct as soon as possible and make him feel like an everyday hero.
Here’s a link to the free video again to get an idea of where you can start!
He feels unloved, unwanted, or underappreciated
And the third most common reason why men cheat on their partners is that they feel like they’re not being treated like a partner.
How does this work?
Well, when men start feeling unloved, unwanted, or underappreciated by their partners, they usually get really frustrated and end up cheating on them.
Does this sound familiar?
If so, then you can probably find the reason for his infidelity in the fact that you don’t try to appreciate him as much as you should.
Or maybe you don’t express your feelings, and he doesn’t even know that you’re unhappy with him.
So, if you notice that he’s not being appreciated by you, try to do something about it — express your feelings to him and let him know that you love and appreciate him.
That way, frustrated type of guys who have a tendency to cheat will realize that you actually care about them.
They’ll understand they don’t have a reason to be frustrated after all. And this is the best possible way to avoid cheating by a man with a frustrating personality type.
2) The Opportunist Cheater
Perhaps not surprisingly, some men are just naturally inclined to flirt whenever they have an opportunity to do so.
They’re not necessarily unhappy in their relationships and don’t feel any kind of dissatisfaction.
But guess what?
They still have affairs.
Because they’re opportunist chapters.
The opportunist cheater is a type of man who doesn’t even have to be unhappy about something to feel a desire to cheat on their partner.
They don’t really feel the need to cheat. They just do it because they can.
And that’s why we call this type of man — an opportunist cheater.
For this type of man, cheating is as natural as breathing, and who can’t help themselves from doing it, no matter what!
So, if you think that your partner is an opportunist cheater — you should probably get ready for some infidelity at some point in time.
Let me explain why this happens.
This type of man craves excitement and adventure. As a result, they’re willing to do anything – including cheating on their partner – to get it.
Sometimes, these types of cheaters are often labeled as “sneaky cheaters” because they’re not out-and-out cheaters.
Rather, they flirt with other people, test their partner’s loyalty, and then decide whether or not to cheat based on how the flirtation goes.
The opportunist cheater will often flirt with other people, but will only go as far as cheating if his partner isn’t able to meet his needs.
Believe it or not, an opportunist cheater can be madly in love with his partner and be happy in the relationship.
But he’ll still flirt with other people and test his partner’s loyalty.
3 reasons why opportunistic cheaters cheat
They have an opportunity to cheat
The first and most obvious reason why these types of men cheat is that they have an opportunity to cheat.
What do I mean by having an opportunity to cheat?
Well, when they see someone who is available and interested in them, they can cheat on their partner.
It’s not that they want to cheat on their partner.
Maybe they’re not even bored with their existing relationship.
They just can’t help but flirt with someone, which eventually results in an affair.
This means that if you have a lot of opportunities to meet new people, the risk of cheating increases significantly.
For example, if you work in a very social environment where there are many other attractive women and men, or even if you hang out with friends who aren’t your partner’s friends — you’re more likely to cheat than those who don’t.
So, you might want to think about limiting your social interactions with other people if you want to prevent your partner from cheating on you.
They have a toxic way of expressing love
You might not even believe this one. Personally, when I first heard that cheating could be an expression of love, I didn’t believe it either.
But it’s true, and I’ll explain to you why.
Some men have a toxic way of expressing love. They think that showing their love means proving that they can have sex with other people.
And being able to have sex with other people proves that they’re better men than their partner.
For men like this, cheating is a way of expressing love — to show that they’re better, more attractive, and more powerful than their partner.
I know it sounds crazy, but they do it because they think it’s a way of making their partners even more committed to it.
They want to show them that women generally adore and are attracted to them. And as long as they think that, you should value and appreciate them more for that.
But the truth is that their partners value them less, and this is just a sign of disrespect and lack of trust. And it never makes your partner more committed to you. It just makes you feel bad.
But that’s another reason why opportunistic types of men cheat — they want to show that they can have sex with other people and that it doesn’t matter to them.
Why am I so sure?
Once my friend told me that she couldn’t understand why his partner cheated on him, so I suggested she explore his personality type.
In the process of researching the types of men who have affairs, she watched a free video of the world-renowned shaman Rudá Iandê explaining love and intimacy in a completely different way from what society thinks.
The key insight from his video to me was that sometimes we chase love in a toxic way without even realizing it. And that’s exactly the case with opportunistic cheaters.
So, if you also want to get new insights about love and intimacy, click here to watch the free video.
They’re looking for excitement in their lives
And the third and most common reason why opportunistic types of men cheat is that they’re looking for excitement in their lives.
This is a very common reason, and it’s not specific to the opportunistic type of cheaters.
Many men cheat because they think that having sex with other women is exciting. And, at least for a moment, it makes them feel alive again.
The truth is that opportunistic cheaters may feel like their partner has everything they need in a relationship.
And you know what?
They feel like there’s nothing left for them to do.
This can quickly lead to boredom, which can then progress into cheating.
The problem with this type of reasoning is that cheating doesn’t make you feel alive — it makes you feel worse than before.
And if you keep cheating, the problems will just accumulate until the point when you’ll have to deal with them all at once.
And then you’ll realize that those problems were there all along — but when we’re not aware of them, we don’t pay attention to them, and we don’t see how much pain they can cause us later on.
So if your partner is an opportunistic cheater, chances are that he’s looking for excitement in his life, and he thinks that other women can give him more excitement than what he has in his life right now.
But the truth is that cheating won’t change anything because being excited by other women means being disappointed by other women.
And no matter how many times you try this pattern, it won’t bring any long-term happiness or satisfaction to your life.
3) The Horny Cheater
And now let’s switch to the third type of men who are usually called “horny cheaters.”
This type of man is very similar to the opportunistic type.
They don’t have any romantic feelings toward the women they sleep with.
But, unlike the opportunists, they do care about sex — and a lot.
They’re not interested in long-term relationships, but they have a strong desire for sex. And this desire doesn’t go away just because they’re in a relationship or because they have sex regularly with their partners.
Horny cheaters usually have a long history of cheating on their partners, and their main motivation for doing so is their insatiable desire for sex.
The horny cheater is so sex-crazed that he’ll cheat on his partner just to get a quick fix of sex.
The cheating partner of the horny cheater will often be a one-night stand because that’s the easiest way for the cheater to get quick sexual gratification.
With time, however, the cheater may develop an emotional attachment to the sexual partner, leading to a more serious affair between them.
The horny cheater will cheat regardless of what type of relationship he’s in. He’ll cheat in a committed relationship just as easily as he’ll cheat in a casual relationship.
He doesn’t care about the relationship he’s in or about the consequences of cheating. The only thing he cares about is the act of cheating and getting his sexual gratification from the affair.
Their libidos are always on point, and they’re always ready and eager to have an affair with someone else.
Now let’s find out some of the reasons why horny men tend to cheat.
3 reasons why horny cheaters cheat
They’re sexually bored
Let me take a wild guess.
If your partner is a horny type of man who has affairs, chances are that you’re very worried about their high libido.
What do I mean by high libido?
Well, libido is an intense energy that requires release. And usually, it’s released during sexual activity.
And when horny men are sexually bored, they don’t hesitate to cheat and have affairs.
So, this reason is a big one, especially for those with a high sexual drive.
Having sex with the same partner for years on end can become incredibly monotonous.
And when it does, it’s easy to jump at the chance to have a sexual experience with someone new.
They’re afraid of missing out
As I already pointed out, a horny cheater is a guy who just can’t resist his sexual urges and desires.
He doesn’t care about the consequences, and he’ll do whatever it takes to fulfill them.
He’ll cheat on his partner with any woman he thinks is attractive, regardless of her relationship status or relationship history with him.
To put it simply, the horny type of man who cheats is the one who feels he has to sleep with as many women as possible because he’s afraid to miss out on something.
This category of men is often immature and is unable to commit to just one person.
They pursue a lot of women and have a variety of sexual partners, but they don’t value these women.
They don’t have any real desire for these women; they are simply looking for sex.
They’re not interested in the woman beyond her body, nor do they want to be faithful to her or love her unconditionally.
They only care about themselves, and that’s why they’ll cheat on their partner if given the chance.
That’s more, the horny cheater is someone who’d rather have an unsatisfying sexual experience with someone new than miss out on the opportunity to have sex at all.
They have an insatiable desire
And finally, the horny guys cheat because they simply want more sex than their partner is willing and/or able to give them.
Does this sound familiar?
Perhaps it does because this is one of the top reasons why guys cheat, regardless of their personality type.
And it’s especially common with horny cheaters.
They are greedy and want to receive as much as they possibly can.
So, they’re ready to take on every challenge and use every chance to cheat.
After reading this article, hopefully, you already understand more about why some men cheat on their partners and how to tell if your partner might be one of them.
Still, I want to know one thing:
Regardless of the type of cheater, your man is, cheating on someone else is never okay.
Stop trying to rationalize their behavior and accept the fact that the personality type isn’t that important when it comes to cheating — 3 of this type will do the same in the future and ruin your life!
So, stand up for yourself, communicate with your partner about your sexual needs and if they don’t listen, then maybe it’s time to break up with them and focus on yourself.
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