What’s the secret to mental toughness?
It’s not an easy question to answer.
Some people say it’s the ability to control your emotions. Others say it’s willpower.
But the truth is, mental toughness isn’t any of these things.
Being mentally strong is more about what you don’t do, rather than what you do.
Many of us let seemingly insignificant, but negative thoughts creep into your heads.
Rather than succumbing to this negativity, here are 20 things you need to stop doing:
1) Dwelling on the past
The past is gone. The future hasn’t arrived yet. The only thing that matters is the present moment. Happy people realize this and don’t waste time thinking about what can’t be changed.
2) Remaining in their comfort zone.
Progress can’t be made from the comfort zone. Remaining there isn’t a way to fully embrace life. Instead, a fulfilling life comes from overcoming your fears and experiencing all that life has to offer.
3) Not listening to others.
Unfortunately, our ego has a way of protecting itself from the opinions of others. But everyone has something to offer, even if you don’t agree with them.
Happy people realize that they can learn something from everyone.
4) Keeping a closed mind.
Nobody knows everything. If you keep a closed mind, then you can’t learn anything new. In order to be fully living and flourishing in life, you need to be constantly learning.
5) Avoiding change.
The only constant in the universe is change. Happy people accept this and realize that it’s a waste of energy to fight against it.
6) Letting others make decisions for them.
We need to take responsibility for ourselves. Even though there are powerful forces from society and friends that are trying to make decisions for us, we need to take a good hard look within and ask ourselves what we truly want.
7) Getting jealous over the success of others.
When others succeed, you should be happy for them. It doesn’t lessen your chances of succeeding or affect who you are in anyway.
There’s no need to compare, we’re all unique.
In fact, it should only give you more motivation to go out and fulfil your desires in life.
8) Thinking about the possibility of failure.
In whatever we do, there’s always a chance of a failure. But happy people don’t look at that way.
Even if they don’t succeed, they realize that there’s always something to be gained when things don’t go the way they expected.
It’s about taking an optimistic view in life.
9) Feeling sorry for themselves.
We all go through troubles in life. Life is tough. Happy people fully accept that suffering is inevitable, no matter who you are.
However, they also realize that there’s literally nothing to be gained from feeling sorry for themselves.
10) Focusing on their weaknesses.
We all have weaknesses. However, some people can spend so much time dwelling on their weaknesses that they forget that they actually have strengths!
Happy people master a certain skill set and forget about what they struggle at.
11) Trying to please people.
A job well done is a job well done, no matter who is judging the final product. You can’t please everybody, but you can always try your best.
12) Blaming others for things outside their control.
We need to take responsibility for our lives. People will always exert some influence over our circumstances, but there is no value in blaming then. Instead, it’s far more fruitful to get on with life and focus on what you can control.
13) Being impatient.
I’m sure you’ve heard it before; patient is a virtue. It isn’t that most people don’succeed because they aren’t good enough. Instead, most people fail because they aren’t patient and think their time has come before it has actually come.
14) Being misunderstood.
Communication is key when it comes to human relationships. Happy people do their best to be understood and have the patience to clear up misunderstandings.
15) Feeling like the world owes you.
Unfortunately life is harsh. It doesn’t really look out for anyone. Instead, it’s up to you to shape your circumstances and find what you’re looking for.
16) Repeating mistakes.
It’s okay to make mistakes, but repeating the same mistakes over and over means you’re not learning.
Life is about growth.
17) Giving into their fears.
We all have fears. Happy people realize that fear is only created in the mind.
How you react to these fears is what really separates happy people from the rest.
18) Acting without calculating.
You need to carefully consider your actions and what the results are likely to be. Doing so will enable you to take calculated risks, which is where the real success in life is.
19) Refusing help from others.
Our ego has a hard time accepting help, but we all need human relationships and companionship. That’s what life is about. Helping each other so we ALL can live the life of our dreams.
20) Giving up.
We only get life once. Giving up lacks dignity. When it comes to living fully and having no regrets, you need to go all in with what life has to offer.
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