So, your crush hasn’t said a word to you for the last two weeks.
Did they just end things with you? Or do they need time to figure out something?
Either way, things didn’t work out, and you’ve been without contact for the last 2 weeks.
And now you wonder: Do you give up or keep trying?
Here are 13 things to consider when trying to decide if you should give up on them
1) Ask yourself: do you have a future together?
You might have this question on your mind.
If you’re wondering if you have a future together, it’s probably because you want to know if they like you.
So, do you see yourself with them long-term?
If so, then you should try to get back together. Because if they feel the same way, chances are that they have some problem or significant reason why they decided not to talk to you.
And guess what?
It doesn’t mean that they don’t think about you constantly during this time.
But if you don’t think that you have a future together, then it’s time to move on.
The only reason you should keep trying to contact them is if you think they’re worth it. If you think they’re the one, and that there is a future together, then continue contacting them.
How can you know if you really have a future together?
Well, first you need to know what they think of you. Try to find the answers to these questions:
- Do they plan to spend the following months with you?
- Are they interested in your life?
- Do they plan to see you regularly in the future?
If they do, then you have a future together.
But, if they don’t think of you as their partner, then you don’t have a future together. And it’s time to move on.
2) Try to find out why they stopped talking to you
Before you panic and feel desperate because of the fact that you haven’t heard from them, get to the bottom of it.
Try to find out why they stopped talking. You don’t need to jump to conclusions and think that you did something wrong or that they lost interest in you.
Because if you do, then you’ll just make yourself feel worse.
You’ll just torture yourself with the idea that they don’t want to talk to you anymore.
But you know what?
There’s no point in worrying about something you’re not even sure of.
So, don’t torture yourself. Just try to find out what happened.
If you want to know why they stopped talking to you, there are a few things you could try.
Just try asking them. If you already tried this but they ignored you, try again.
Sometimes people just forget to respond to you. If they ignored your previous attempts, give them space and try again in a couple of weeks.
If you tried everything and are still unsure why they stopped talking to you, you can try to find out if someone else knows.
If you ask someone else, remember to be respectful. You don’t want to push them away.
And if they have a reason, then you can only be happy that you found out the truth instead of just assuming that they lost interest in you and then finding out months later that they didn’t.
So, don’t worry and don’t panic. Just try to find out why they stopped talking to you.
And if you don’t find out why they stopped talking to you, then it will be much harder to move on.
Because you won’t understand what went wrong. And you won’t know how to fix it or prevent it from happening again.
3) How high are your expectations?
Sometimes you won’t hear from someone because you have too high expectations.
What do I mean by that?
If you expect them to contact you all the time, then you’ll be disappointed. Especially, if they have different plans for you.
But that raises the question:
Why does love so often start out great, only to become a nightmare?
And what’s the solution to having no contact with your crush because of too high expectations?
The answer is contained in the relationship you have with yourself.
I learned about this from the renowned shaman Rudá Iandê. He taught me to see through the lies we tell ourselves about love, and to become truly empowered.
As Rudá explains in this mind-blowing free video, love is not what many of us think it is. In fact, many of us are actually self-sabotaging our love lives without realizing it!
We need to face the facts about their intentions and expectations towards us.
Far too often, we chase an idealized image of someone and build up expectations that are guaranteed to be let down.
Far too often, we fall into codependent roles of savior and victim to try to “fix” our partner, only to end up in a miserable, bitter routine.
Far too often, we are on shaky ground with our own selves and this carries over into toxic relationships that become hell on earth.
Rudá’s teachings showed me a whole new perspective.
While watching, I felt like someone understood my struggles with communication with my partner – and finally offered an actual, practical solution
If you’re done with unsatisfying dating, empty hookups, frustrating relationships, and having your hopes dashed over and over, then this is a message you need to hear.
4) Look at the bigger picture
Ever tried to look at the bigger picture and understand why you’re not getting a response?
It could be that they don’t want to hurt your feelings. Or they want to give you space.
Sometimes, you might be the last person they need in their life right now.
Or maybe it’s because of your past and how you treated them before. They might be wary of starting a new relationship with you after the last one ended badly.
Whatever the reason, you can’t solve this problem without looking at the bigger picture:
And for this, you have to ask yourself this question:
Are you happy with your current situation?
Before you decide whether to give up on your crush or not, you need to look at the bigger picture.
- What do you want in your life?
- What do you want to achieve?
- What are your plans for the future?
- What do you want to be?
If you want to be happy in your life, you need to make a few decisions. You need to decide what you want and what you need. You need to decide if your crush is right for you.
You also need to decide if you’re happy with your current situation.
Are you in a happy relationship? Is your crush someone who makes you happy?
If not, you need to decide if you should give up.
This means that taking a look at the bigger picture will help you realize if it’s worth giving up on your crush.
5) You’re not in a healthy relationship with this person
Let’s be honest:
Are you in a healthy relationship with your crush? Are you in a relationship that makes you happy?
Or do you feel that the communication style with this person makes your relationship a little bit toxic?
If you feel that you’re not in a good relationship with your crush, then it might be worth giving up on them.
If the relationship makes you unhappy, then it might be worth giving up on them.
Because if they don’t make you happy, then what is the point of continuing the relationship?
Relationships should make both people feel happy and loved. So if your crush is making you feel something else, then it might be time to give up on them.
If you’re not in a healthy relationship with this person, you need to ask yourself what you’re doing.
Why are you in a relationship with someone who doesn’t treat you with respect?
If you’re not in a healthy relationship with this person, you might need to think about ending it.
Because being unable to contact your loved one for two weeks isn’t normal. It means that you can’t share your daily lives with each other.
If you can’t share your daily lives with each other, then it means that you’re not in a healthy relationship. If that’s the case, then it might be worth giving up on your crush.
I know that relationships are hard work. But if this person doesn’t make you happy, then it’s time to move on and find happiness elsewhere.
Nothing good comes from being in a toxic relationship!
Especially if it’s with someone who doesn’t love or care about you the way they should.
And when someone doesn’t love or care about you the way they should, then there’s no point in staying in a toxic relationship!
6) Check if you’re being ghosted
If your crush is ignoring you, it’s time to ask yourself if you’re being ghosted.
What does that mean?
Well, when someone ghosts you, it means that they pretend like they don’t exist. They might not respond to your messages or calls. They might ignore your texts and emails.
And if this person is doing this to you, then it might be time to give up on them!
I know that being ghosted can be a little bit scary because you don’t know why they’re doing it. But it’s still important to check if this is happening to you!
The truth is that being ghosted can make someone feel pretty awful.
And if the person who ghosted you doesn’t care about making you feel bad, then it might be time to move on and find someone who cares more about your feelings.
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Believe it or not, if you don’t know why your crush stopped talking to you, you might be being ghosted.
Ghosting is a phenomenon that occurs when a relationship just suddenly ends with no closure. It’s becoming a new trend and it’s quite common. A lot of people are being ghosted.
If you think you’re being ghosted, you need to decide what to do. You can try to contact the person, or you can just ignore them.
You should act according to your personality. If you are being ghosted and want to know how to get out of this situation, you need to understand that you can’t do anything.
You can’t fix this. The only thing you can do is wait until the person who ghosted you comes back. This might take a long time. You need to be patient.
So, try to figure out if you’re being ghosted and if so, then it might be time to give up on your crush.
7) What would a relationship coach say?
While the points in this article will help you make a decision after spending two weeks of no contact, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.
That’s what I recently did.
When I was at the worst point in my relationship I reached out to a relationship coach to see if they could give me any answers or insights.
I expected some vague advice about cheering up or being strong.
But surprisingly I got very in-depth, specific, and practical advice about addressing the problems in my relationship. This included real solutions to improving many things that my partner and I had been struggling with for years.
Relationship Hero is where I found this special coach who helped turn things around for me. They are perfectly placed to help you with maladaptive communication styles too.
Relationship Hero is a hugely popular relationship coaching site because they provide solutions, not just talk.
In just a few minutes you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice specific to your situation.
8) Do they know how you feel?
Let me ask you an important question:
Does your crush know how you feel about them? Do they understand that taking such a big break without any explanation is hurting you?
If you want to know if your crush knows how you feel about them, you need to tell them.
Because if your crush doesn’t know how much you value spending time with them and how much you like them, they might think you’re just a friend.
If they keep talking to you, they might just be being nice.
If you want to make them aware of your feelings, you should tell them. If you don’t tell them, your crush might just ignore you.
They might not even realize that they’re ignoring you or that they’re being insensitive.
So, you need to be honest with them.
You need to tell your crush exactly how you feel about this situation.
And if they don’t understand or if they just don’t care, then it might be time to give up on them.
9) Don’t give up just because you’ve had no contact for a while
Here’s one of the most important tips about dealing with 2 weeks without no contact:
Don’t give up on your crush just because they haven’t contacted you for a while.
If you want to get back together with your ex, then you should never give up on them.
In my experience, if you want to get back together with your ex, then the best thing to do is to keep talking to them.
Even if they don’t respond or don’t seem interested, keep talking to them and try not to lose hope.
Because if you give up on them and stop trying too soon, then they might not realize that they made a mistake breaking up with you.
If they think that it’s okay for them not to talk to you anymore, then they might just forget about how awesome you are and move on without giving it another thought.
If that happens, then there’s no way for the two of you to ever get back together again. And once this happens, there’s no going back!
So whatever happens, don’t give up on your ex too soon! Keep trying and don’t let them go!
Just try to understand that sometimes people need time to process things. Sometimes people need time to think about what’s happening and what they might do next.
So, if you haven’t heard back from them, don’t give up just yet.
It can be hard to wait around for a response, but it can also be worth the wait if they come back to you eventually. So, just keep waiting and see what happens next.
10) Don’t take it personally
Okay, your partner or crush hasn’t texted you back in two weeks. But does that mean that you have to take it personally?
No, it doesn’t.
The truth is that people have different reasons for not contacting you.
Some people just don’t have time to talk to you. Some people are busy at work or they might be going through a difficult time in their life.
And some people just don’t want to talk to you anymore, but it doesn’t mean that they don’t like you anymore.
Plus, there’s also the possibility that they just aren’t interested in getting back together with you.
So, take all of these things into consideration when thinking about why your crush hasn’t contacted you lately.
And if this is the case, then don’t take it personally and don’t get mad at them! Just try to understand why they haven’t contacted you and if this is something that they might change in the near future.
Because maybe they will contact you again soon, and maybe they will realize how much they care about you and how much they miss talking to each other and spending time together!
That’s why I think it’s important to keep trying because sometimes people make mistakes or do things out of their own free will and aren’t always aware of what those actions mean for us as individuals (and couples) in the long run.
Therefore, if your crush hasn’t texted you back, then it’s not because they don’t like you anymore. It’s not because you did something wrong or that there’s something wrong with you.
It might be just a coincidence, okay?
And as soon as they realize they’ve hurt you and they want to talk to you, then they will text you again and everything will be fine.
Maybe one day you’ll get a response, but maybe not for a long time. Don’t take it personally if you don’t hear from them for a while!
It doesn’t mean anything bad about you or them. It just means that they’re busy, distracted, or have too many other things going on in their life right now.
Maybe they’ll reach out again when things calm down for them and when they’re ready to start dating again, but until then, just do what’s best for YOU and keep working towards your personal goals for yourself!
11) Don’t stalk them on social media
One of the most common ways of coping with the situation of being away from your crush is by stalking them on social media.
And you know what?
It’s not a good idea!
Because it can lead to you feeling extremely anxious and angry.
You see, when you have no way of communicating with your crush… well, let’s say that you start getting mad at them for not texting you back or keeping in touch with you on social media.
In this case, it’s very difficult for your calm and rational mind to deal with the situation.
And that can lead to a lot of negative emotions – anger, frustration, sadness… and maybe even depression!
So, make sure not to stalk them on social media. Although it’s not going to be easy to resist the urge, try your best.
12) Take care of your mental health
Are you feeling depressed or frustrated after your crush hasn’t contacted you?
If so, let me tell you something:
It’s okay to feel frustrated or sad about the situation, but don’t let those feelings take over your life!
You can talk to a friend or family member if you need help, and maybe you can even write an essay about the situation and how it makes you feel.
Whatever you are going to do to cope with the situation, you should know that it’s important to take care of yourself.
You should take care of your mental health and physical health by eating healthy, doing some exercise, and drinking enough water.
All these strategies will help you feel better and develop a better sense of self-esteem.
And maybe one day, your crush will text you and everything will be okay again!
13) Use this time for your self-development
And finally, you should understand that spending 2 weeks without any contact from your crush does have positive sides too.
What do I mean?
Well, being apart can be a great opportunity for you to develop yourself as a person.
You see, when people are in a relationship and constantly speak with each other, they can end up not seeing the world from their own view.
They might end up stuck in a relationship and lose their individual selves or identities.
And guess what?
Of course, it’s a bad thing. It can lead to misunderstandings and bad situations.
But when people are away from each other for a while or they are separated by a long-distance, they can actually learn a lot about each other and gain some valuable insights into themselves!
They will become more mature, more self-aware, and even more capable of making good decisions in the future.
And you’re going to be the one who benefits from this experience! You’re going to be able to use it as an opportunity to improve yourself and your life!
You should use this time to work on yourself and become the best version of yourself that you can be!
The bottom line is that you should not let yourself get too upset or depressed by your situation.
If you’ve had no contact with your crush for the last 2 weeks, don’t worry. There are many reasons why this could have happened.
You just need to find out why they stopped talking to you. Once you know what happened, you can decide whether to give up or if you should wait for them to come back.
So, don’t forget to take care of yourself and develop yourself as a person, because it’s important to be able to deal with your problems in life.
And as time goes by, you’ll be able to deal with the situation, move on, or rebuild your connection with this person.
How this one revelation changed my love life
It’s Justin Brown here, the co-founder of Ideapod, and I have something to confess…
I used to believe I needed to be successful before I deserved to find someone who could love me.
I used to believe there was a “perfect person” out there and I just had to find them.
I used to believe I would finally be happy once I found “the one”.
What I now know is that these limiting beliefs were stopping me from building deep and intimate relationships with the people I was meeting. I was chasing an illusion that was leading me to loneliness.
If you want to change anything in your life, one of the most effective ways is to change your beliefs.
Unfortunately, it’s not an easy thing to do.
I’m lucky to have worked directly with the shaman Rudá Iandê in changing my beliefs about love. Doing so has changed my life forever.
Now, Rudá’s teachings can change your life, too.
As the co-founder of Ideapod, I’m in a unique position to be able to bring Rudá’s teachings to our global community.
We do this by promoting his masterclasses.
One of the most powerful masterclasses he has is the love and intimacy masterclass. In this class, Rudá breaks down his key lessons on cultivating healthy and nurturing relationships in your life.
Thousands of people have already let me know that this masterclass has changed their love lives for the better.
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