10 things strong independent women never do (so you shouldn’t either!)

In today’s world, we live in a culture where women are expected to be strong and independent, but most of us aren’t taught how best to act like that ourselves.

We’re constantly told that being awesome at your job will get you ahead in life (and sometimes even make your boss happy).

For now though, let me just say this: being a strong woman doesn’t mean that you have to be aggressive or harsh. In fact, those qualities are all things that can hold you back from being truly awesome at your job (and in life).

Instead, consider taking some time to finish this article, you will learn all about the art of being a strong, assertive woman. And you’ll be that much closer to being the best version of yourself!

Here are 17 behaviors strong independent women refrain from, and so should you!

1. Weaken themselves by worrying

This is the number one thing that strong women hold back from.

Yeah, that’s right! 

Worrying is a way for people to avoid the present moment. It’s about avoiding responsibility, taking care of yourself and your own needs, or even just learning from your mistakes.

Worrying is also a habit that most people fall into when they feel overwhelmed by the world around them — but strong, self-sufficient women don’t let their problems overwhelm them! 

They know that worrying doesn’t solve anything. 

They know that worrying is time wasted, energy wasted, and that it won’t help them reach their goals. 

Instead, they focus on taking positive action to create the outcomes they want.

2. Allow themselves to be controlled by their fears

The fear of failure is a common one and can hold people back in their lives. 

They feel like they’re not good enough or that they’ll fail if they try something new, so they don’t take risks or make mistakes because of this fear.

However, women who are strong, self-sufficient and successful in their own right (or at least aspire to be), never waste their time on being afraid of failing! 

If you’re always looking over your shoulder before running towards something new—like an exciting project or relationship opportunity—you won’t achieve anything great because your mind will always be telling you “no” even though deep down inside there may actually be room for risk taking within yourself!

3. Blame others for their situation in life

The last thing that a strong, self-sufficient woman would do is blaming others for her situation in life. 

She knows for sure that it will not change the outcome of her situation, and it will not help her move forward in life. 

Rather than blaming others for something that isn’t their fault, she would focus on making positive changes to her own life and work toward achieving her personal goals. 

4. Become jealous and bitter

It’s true that a strong, self-sufficient woman won’t be jealous. 

Jealousy is often a result of feeling insecure or inadequate and a strong woman knows she is capable and worthy of anything her heart desires. 

Instead of feeling envious of others, she focuses on her own journey and doing the work to achieve her goals. 

She knows that anything is possible with hard work and dedication, and her own success is the only thing that matters to her. 

She also knows that jealousy diminishes her own power and presence, and she won’t allow it to interfere with her life. 

A strong woman won’t need to be jealous because she is confident in her own abilities and her own path. 

Instead, she will stay true to herself, refusing to be influenced by the successes of others. 

In doing so, she will remain focused on her own journey and continue to be a strong, self-sufficient woman.

5. Sacrifice their values to get ahead

Strong, self-sufficient women won’t sacrifice their values to get ahead. 

Of course, they understand that some sacrifices may be necessary to reach their goals, but they won’t compromise their core values. 

Women who understand their self-worth and who recognize their own strength will work hard to achieve their goals without sacrificing their values such as their morals or their beliefs. 

They know that, by doing so, they’ll only end up feeling miserable and disappointed with themselves in the end.

Strong women also won’t pretend to be someone they’re not. 

They know that, in order to get ahead, they need to be their true selves, flaws and all. 

To them, being true to who they are is more important than any amount of success they could ever hope to achieve.

All in all, strong, self-sufficient women have a deep understanding of their own value, and will never sacrifice it in order to get ahead.

6. Let people take advantage of them

There’re always times that people would try to get a little extra out of someone. But when you’re too nice, they’ll try to take even more.

‘You know, I’m still gonna need you to stay late and finish these reports.’

Sound familiar? 

A strong, independent female is conscious of when others really need assistance and when they’re attempting to take advantage of her. 

She won’t turn down support to those who truly need it.

But on the other hand, they understand their worth and won’t let anyone manipulate or control them.

They won’t put up with someone’s bad behavior, and they won’t give in to someone’s demands. Instead, they will speak up for themselves and stand their ground.

If you find yourself being taken advantage of or put down by someone who doesn’t deserve to have their desires met, speak up! 

Tell them that this isn’t acceptable behavior and walk away if they don’t respect your wishes. 

7. They don’t demand their partners’ attention all the time

When it comes to relationships, strong, independent women would never ask their partners to always pay attention to them. 

Why so? 

  • A strong, independent woman values her own time and space, and does not need to constantly seek attention from her partner.
  • She understands that a healthy relationship requires both partners to have their own interests and hobbies.
  • She does not need to rely on her partner for validation, and is confident in herself and her choices.
  • She has trust and respect for her partner, and knows that they both need time apart to grow as individuals.

It’s natural to want to feel loved and connected to those around us. However, it is only through truthful trust that a relationship can become solid and enduring. 

8. They let go of toxic friendships

Have you ever been in a relationship that you thought was a friendship, but deep down knew it wasn’t as healthy as you hoped? If so, you are not alone!

Many times women stay in these relationships out of fear, or because they think they have no other choice, or they just want to be nice. 

But the truth is that there’s always another choice — and you can make the best decision based on your values and beliefs.

Strong, self-sufficient women will not hesitate to make a decision about this. They will just let go of toxic friendships as soon as they bother them. 

They don’t have time to carry negative people in their lives or to be treated with disrespect. 

They have too much to do and too many goals to achieve. They can recognize when a friendship isn’t healthy anymore and when it’s time to move on.

And most importantly, they know that it’s OK to say no to people who don’t respect or support them. 

Our friends should be people who lift us up and make us feel good about ourselves. We don’t need to stay in bad relationships – we are strong enough to walk away and look for healthier connections. 

So if you’re a strong, independent woman, take the time to make sure you’re surrounded by people who make you feel good and who are going to be there for you in the long run.

9. Complaining when things don’t go as planned.

It’s important to know that no matter how much you want something to happen, it won’t always turn out the way we planned. 

And strong, self-sufficient women always know that

That’s why they won’t complain when things don’t go as planned. 

These women are often faced with many obstacles and they know that they have to be proactive in order to move forward. 

  • They don’t look for sympathy or handouts, they take action and make things happen! 
  • They don’t get discouraged when faced with adversity, instead they take it as an opportunity to learn and grow. 
  • They don’t let the setbacks stop them, they look for solutions and keep pressing forward. 

These women are made of stronger stuff, they don’t accept defeat and they always stay positive. 

They are the embodiment of strength and resilience, and they won’t complain when things don’t go as planned. 

They know that life is full of ups and downs, but they focus on what they can control and take decisive action. 

They are the true heroes and inspiration for many, and we should all strive to be more like them.

10. Being completely independent from other people.

Last but not least, being self-sufficient means being capable of managing and providing for oneself without relying on external sources, however, it doesn’t mean being completely independent from other people. 

In fact, a strong, self-sufficient woman would understand the importance of knowing when she needs help and how to ask for it.

Besides, people need other people for emotional support, companionship, and to build meaningful relationships. 

It is important to recognize that having interdependence with others, rather than complete independence, can be beneficial to personal growth.

You can be strong and independent without isolating yourself from the world

It’s easy to get wrapped up in your own head, but it’s important to remember that there are other people out there who care about you too. 

What more? Being strong means understanding that everything is not just about you! 

And remember: The best way to show support for someone else is by being kind and supportive yourself. 

The trick is: showing love isn’t just limited to physical touch; it also means offering words of encouragement when they need them most (and vice versa).

It’s not easy being strong, but it’s worth it!

We all have to admit that building our own self-confidence and strength takes time, energy and effort. 

But of course, the rewards are worth it: You will be able to do great things for yourself, others and the world around you — things that make a difference in people’s lives. 

You’ll find yourself feeling more successful than ever before — even if this isn’t reflected outwardly by others — because of all that growth within yourself as well as your confidence level on the outside.

If you want to become strong and self-sufficient, I can guarantee you that it will be worth it.

I hope you are finding these tips on being a strong, bold woman of value – because women like this exist to be an inspiration to all!

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Nguyet Yen Tran

Yen is a freelance writer and a researcher specializing in mental health, self-awareness, and psychology. Her hobby is studying human behavior throughout their reaction upon situations. Be sure to check out her other posts on our blog.

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