10 signs you’re an alpha female and most men find you intimidating

qualities of a strong woman

These days it’s easy to spot an independent woman walking down the street. She holds her head a little higher and she has a certain air about her when she walks.

It’s because she is making her own way in the world, and even if she is attached to a man, she’s not attached to his hip.

She knows how to get what she wants and everyone around her admires her for that – including any man lucky enough to be in her life.

Wondering if you are really just an Alpha Female and not a dominate b*tch others would have you believe you are?

Here’s a list of 12 ways to tell you are, in fact, an Alpha Female.

1) You Don’t Go Looking for Attention. It Goes Looking For You.

Wherever you go, people flock to you like moths to a flame.

You are never alone and don’t worry about travelling by yourself or walking into a room by yourself because it won’t be but a minute before someone is drawn to your charisma and talks to you.

Plus, you aren’t afraid to be alone or strike up a conversation so you are happy to fly solo whenever the occasion calls for it.

2) You Get What You Want.

You don’t have to wait very long for the things you want in life because you aren’t waiting around for someone to bring them into your life. You decide what you want and you get to work creating it. It’s the thing that sets you apart from the people around you.

There is nothing you couldn’t have because you are more than willing to put the work in to make that dream a reality.

3) Every Song About Being An Independent Woman is Basically About You.

There’s no doubt that you are what Alpha Female is all about. You can take care of yourself and don’t need a man on your hip.

It’s nice to be in a relationship, but your guy has got to understand that you’ve made your way in life this far, you can go the rest of it alone too if need be.

Any guy who is going to be with you needs to have his life together too.

4) You’ve Got Your Sh*t Together and Nobody Questions That.

All your friends want to know your secret. They are constantly in awe of how you do what you do, and you aren’t even breaking a sweat. You’re operating in first gear most of the time and still knocking home runs out of the park.

You know your potential and have figured out how to bring your dreams to life without killing yourself to do it.

5) You Can Shift Gears on the Fly.

Some of your best work has been done during the stressful times or working toward a deadline. You can dance with the best of them, but make no mistake: you are always leading the way in whatever it is you are doing.

Others clear paths for you because they want to see what you will achieve and they want to take the opportunity to learn from you.

6) Ain’t Nobody Going to Hold You Down.

Sure, there are lots of haters, but you don’t care. You are way too busy building your empire and being awesome to worry about the people who don’t want to cheer you on. There’s no shortage of hate out there so you like to spread around the love.

You are happy to help someone who is happy to help themselves in the process, but you don’t let anyone drag you down to their level of negativity and discontent.

7) You’re the Glue That Binds You And Your Friends.

If you aren’t going to make it to dinner, then dinner is off. Your friends don’t hang out without you because they need you in the group to keep the conversation going and bring some life to the dinner, or drinks, or whatever it is you are going to be doing together.

You are the one that they all turn to for advice, help, and insight into their own lives, and they wouldn’t dream of hanging out without the one they all like.

8) You Are Happy to Say When You’ve Made a Mistake.

You are so confident in your abilities that you are not afraid to say when you’ve messed up. You recognize the learning that is possible because of the situation and you go on to pick your socks up without skipping a beat.

Some might criticize you for your choices, but you are already too busy making new choices to care.

9) You Don’t Put Up With Terrible People.

There’s no room in your life for someone who doesn’t respect you or your time. If someone is rude or mean to you, they don’t get to live in your presence much longer.

You are happy to disconnect from people who don’t get you and what you are all about.

10) You Aren’t Intimidated By Anything.

People, places, things, money, opportunities: these are all just part of your life and none of it scares you. You have your own back and know that there’s nothing you can’t achieve if you put your mind to it.

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Written by Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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