Have you ever been told that you need to truly love yourself before you can love others?
This has happened to me countless times. It sounds easy, but I never really knew where to begin.
It’s always going to be a work in progress, but I found these 11 tips to be really powerful to keep reminding me how to love myself.
I hope you find them as inspiring as I have.
1. Stop judging, and appreciate the beauty within you.
Judging yourself is different from being honest with yourself.
Judging yourself happens when you continually criticize yourself for what’s happening in your life. It’s possible to be honest about how you could have done better without needing to think negatively about yourself.
It’s much better to see your imperfections as beautiful and appreciate them for what they’re teaching you.
2. Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you.
Think about the last time you did something and criticized yourself for it.
The chances are that you’re much harsher to yourself for doing this than if someone else did it.
We find it easier to love and accept other people around us than to offer ourselves the same level of support. When you’re truly comfortable in your own skin, you’ll be much kinder to yourself.
3. Care less about who you are to others.
This has always been the toughest one for me. I lost sense of who I really was as I always worried so much how I was being perceived by others.
I had to learn than I was good enough just the way I was, and that I didn’t need anyone’s approval for being myself.
4. Know your worth.
We often accept the love we think we deserve. It makes no sense to be second in someone’s life, when you know you’re good enough to be first in someone else’s.
5. Don’t rush intimate relationships.
Love is not about moving fast, but going slow and enjoy the moment together.
If you haven’t found love yet, don’t settle. There is someone out there who will love you unconditionally, even if it’s not the person you were initially hoping for.
(We just released a new eBook: The Art of Resilience: A Practical Guide to Developing Mental Toughness. We highlight 20 of the most resilient people in the world and break down what traits they have in common. We then equip you with 10 resilience-building tools that you can start using today–in your personal life or professional career. Check it out here.)
6. Let go of those who aren’t really there.
Some people have played a supportive role in your past but are no longer meant to fit into your life. That’s okay.
The ones who are truly worthy of your love will stick around through the hard times and laugh with you after the hard times pass.
There’s nothing wrong with the people who have moved on or who don’t fit anymore. Life is complex. We constantly change. Let them go, keep on loving yourself and the right people will remain with you on the journey.
7. Forgive yourself and others.
Life begins where your fear and resentment ends.
Just because someone hurt you yesterday, doesn’t mean you should keep on hating the world or live in constant fear of being hurt again.
When you learn to forgive yourself and others, you end up creating the life you love.
8. Focus on the positive.
Don’t let negativity wear you down. Look at the brighter side of life. Change your thoughts and transform your reality.
Our thoughts create the perspective with which we interact with the world. Guiding your thoughts is the best way to live the life you want.
9. Believe in the person you are capable of being.
The real purpose of your life is to evolve and grow into the whole person you are capable of being. Have a mind that is open to everything and attached to nothing. Change really is always possible – there is no ability that can’t be developed with experience. Don’t ever let your negative beliefs stand in the way of your own improvement.
10. Work on goals you believe in.
Never put off or give up on a goal that’s important to you. Not because you still have tomorrow to start or try again, but because you may not have tomorrow at all. Life is shorter than it sometimes seems. Follow your heart today.
11. Keep looking and moving straight forward.
Moving on from things in your past doesn’t mean you’ve forgotten why they were important. It means you’ve accepted what’s happening in the present and you’re choosing to move forward with your life.
In the end, loving yourself is about enjoying your life, trusting your own feelings, taking chances, losing and finding happiness, valuing your memories and people in your past.
At some point you just need to stop worrying about what could have been, and start loving yourself. That’s when life really starts to change.
NOW READ: She’s beautiful and you are too
More people like you...
… are supporting independent media and education platforms like Ideapod. Unlike many other media organizations, we have decided to make our writing free and accessible to all.
We have a vision of a world where power is returned to the people. Where individuals are inspired to break through limiting paradigms to find their own sources of creativity.
This is as much an inner-journey as it is about changing the world. That’s why our writing ranges from personal development to world issues.
We need your support to continue doing what we do. If you find value in the articles you’re reading, please consider becoming a Prime member for as little as $4 monthly. You’ll experience Ideapod without advertisements and get special access to new products. Most importantly, you’ll be supporting a platform seeking to bring power back to within the people.