Lao-Tzu was a well-regarded ancient philosopher in China and became the founder of Taoism.
For him, a man’s strength and well-being lay in the arms of happiness. Until this happiness was uncovered and cherished, a person would continue to struggle in their day-to-day life. Lao-Tzu stated there wasn’t a single person who could rule others until he/she learned to rule their heart.
So, what does a person do to discover happiness?
Here are ten ways to discover happiness and conquer your heart.
1) “At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.”
Are you listening to your heart? Everyone faces challenges whether it’s in school, work, or their personal lives but it’s your heart that has the answers. Yes, some push those answers away in the hopes of fantastical outcomes, but those rarely become a reality.
Learn to listen to your heart and watch as happiness follows.
2) “A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving.”
It doesn’t matter where you’re headed because that’s inconsequential. The ups and downs you face along the way to your destination are what matter. Those who learn to enjoy the journey get more out of their experience than those who are fixated on the destination.
If you savor the journey, you can find happiness even if the destination never arrives.
3) “Simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures.”
Keep things simple. Life is a straightforward reality if you break it down. It has been the same since the first human walked this planet. Complex dreams and impatience yield anger, distraught, and frustration but it doesn’t have to be this way. Seek simplicity and patience because happiness will become a reality.
4) “Those who know do not speak. Those who speak do not know.”
Sometimes, saying nothing is the smartest thing to do, and it will yield happiness. Even if you know something, this doesn’t mean you have to share it with others to bring them down.
It serves little purpose and only demeans your happiness. Welcoming the power of silence and use it to battle against life’s hardest tests.
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5) “Do you have the patience to wait until your mud settles and the water is clear?”
Dramatic change isn’t the source of happiness; it’s a sign of brashness. Learning to stick through the hurdles is the first step to eternal joy. Everyone runs for greener pastures but sometimes holding on is the best option moving forward. Don’t be afraid of holding to see what unfolds.
6) “Act without expectation.”
Your actions shouldn’t be a consequence of expectations. They should be an extension of your will to do what you wish to do. If you share with others, don’t expect their praise. If you are putting in the time to benefit others, do so without any hopes of returns.
This brings greater happiness because you’ll never lose.
7) “Music in the soul can be heard by the universe.”
Yes, music is magical and relieving. Music is what adds passion to life and gives it new meaning on a day-to-day basis. Your genre might differ from the person next to you, but the joy it brings remains similar. Learn to soak it in and expand your musical horizons because it’s a world of its own ready to be deciphered.
8) “Respond intelligently even to unintelligent treatment”
Feel someone is illogical? Feel someone is in the wrong? It doesn’t matter!
Your intelligence shouldn’t come through long, fiery debates but through your approach to handling unintelligence. Those who are silent or patient yield greater results than those who go headfirst into unnecessary arguments.
These are the ten important ways of finding happiness in this world. Lao-Tzu spent his entire life unraveling the mysteries of his life, and these ways were critical in his eyes to a human’s well being. Those who push this aside will never find comfort in what they’re doing regardless of how much material progress they’ve made.
Start incorporating these ways and watch as your life is filled with newfound happiness.