10 things confident people never do when making a first impression

Have you ever noticed how some people just seem to be confident?

They walk into a room and bam! Everyone notices them. But do you know why? They avoid doing certain things that make them unforgettable.

Want to know their secret?

Here we go, let’s talk about the 10 things confident people don’t do when they first meet someone.

1. Bragging

Imagine meeting someone for the first time and all they do is talk about how amazing they are, how much they’ve achieved, and how successful their life is. It’s a bit too much, right?

That’s exactly what confident people avoid. They don’t need a loudspeaker announcing their accomplishments to the world.

They believe their actions will speak for themselves. They understand that constantly bragging about their life and achievements can come off as self-centered and arrogant.

Instead, they focus on getting to know the person they’re talking to, asking questions, and showing genuine interest in their stories.

They know that a conversation is not a competition but an exchange of thoughts, ideas, and experiences.

2. Looking Away

Ever tried to have a conversation with someone who just won’t look you in the eyes? It feels weird, right? Like they’re not really interested in what you’re saying.

Confident people know this and always maintain eye contact.

They understand that looking someone in the eye when they’re speaking shows respect and interest.

It says, “Hey, I’m focused on you and what you’re saying matters to me.”

But, they also know there’s a fine line between maintaining eye contact and staring creepily.

So, they strike the right balance – they look into your eyes when they’re talking or listening but also take short breaks to look away.

So, next time you meet someone new, remember to look them in the eyes. It’s a simple way to show them you’re confident and interested in what they have to say.

3. Dominating the Conversation

I remember once going on a first date with this guy who just wouldn’t stop talking.

He gave me a play-by-play of his entire life, his likes, dislikes, dreams, and even his favorite TV shows.

I barely got a chance to speak a word. By the end of the date, I knew so much about him, but he knew absolutely nothing about me.

Confident people don’t do that. They understand that a good conversation is like playing ping pong – it’s all about the back and forth. It’s not just about talking; it’s equally important to listen.

So they ask questions, show interest in the other person’s stories, and genuinely engage in the conversation rather than just waiting for their turn to speak.

They give space for others to express themselves and make them feel heard.

In my experience, confident people have a knack for making conversations memorable by making them balanced. 

4. Neglecting Their Looks

You’ve probably heard the saying, “Don’t judge a book by its cover.”

But let’s be real, we all do it to some extent, especially when we’re meeting someone for the first time.

Confident people are aware of this. They understand that our brains are wired to make quick judgments based on appearances.

In fact, it takes about a tenth of a second to form an impression of a stranger from their face.

That’s why confident people never neglect their appearance. They make sure they’re well-groomed and dressed appropriately for every situation.

They understand that looking good isn’t just about vanity; it’s about showing respect for themselves and the people they’re meeting.

5. Badmouthing Others

Imagine you’re meeting a person for the first time and they start talking poorly about someone else.

It’s uncomfortable, isn’t it? It makes you wonder what they might say about you when you’re not around.

Confident people understand this on a deep level. They know that speaking ill of others doesn’t elevate them; instead, it reveals a lack of character and respect.

They uphold the golden rule: treat others as you would like to be treated. This means speaking about others with kindness and respect, even when they’re not present.

They believe that everyone has their own story, their own struggles, and their own journey. Who are we to judge or criticize?

Speaking kindly of others isn’t just about making a good impression; it’s about spreading positivity and understanding in a world where these qualities can often be in short supply.

So, next time you’re tempted to share some juicy gossip or criticize someone else, pause for a moment.

Choose kindness instead. It’s a decision that confident people make every day, and it’s one that will reflect beautifully on your character.

6. Fidgeting

I remember the first time I had to deliver a presentation in front of my entire class. I was so nervous that I couldn’t stop fidgeting.

I was tapping my feet, wringing my hands, and just couldn’t stand still.

It was clear to everyone that I was anxious, and it made them more focused on my nervous habits rather than what I was saying.

Confident people don’t do this.

They know that being calm and composed helps them appear more confident and assured.

They understand that excessive fidgeting can be distracting and might take away from their overall message.

Over the years, I’ve learned to control these nervous habits.

Now, when I’m meeting someone new or speaking in public, I make a conscious effort to keep my movements calm and deliberate.

It wasn’t easy, but with practice, it’s become second nature.

7. Ignoring Opinions

Let’s face it, none of us like to be told we’re wrong, right? It’s uncomfortable. It stings.

But you know what confident people do? They take it on the chin. They don’t just shut down opposing opinions or ideas because they’re different from their own.

Confident people aren’t afraid of being wrong. They don’t think they know it all. They understand that everyone has something to teach them.

They’re open-minded and willing to consider other perspectives, even if it challenges their own beliefs.

They see it as a chance to learn, to grow, and to see the world through someone else’s eyes.

So next time someone disagrees with you, don’t just dismiss them. Listen. Consider their point of view. You might learn something new. And hey, that’s how we grow, isn’t it?

8. Avoid Taking Chances

People who regularly seek out fresh experiences tend to be more creative and emotionally resilient than those who remain stuck in routine.

Confident people get this. They aren’t afraid to take chances or try new things. They understand that risk-taking is a part of life and that it’s through these experiences that we learn and grow the most.

They know that failure isn’t the opposite of success, but rather a stepping stone towards it. They see every mistake as an opportunity to learn something new and come back stronger.

So when you’re faced with a chance to step out of your comfort zone, remember this: taking risks can lead to growth, learning, and even happiness. Why not give it a shot?

9. Being Late

Back in college, I had a friend who was always late. It didn’t matter if it was a study group, a party, or just grabbing coffee; he’d always stroll in at least 15 minutes late.

At first, we’d laugh it off, but after a while, it started to feel disrespectful. Like our time didn’t matter to him.

Confident people never do this. They understand that being punctual is a sign of respect. It shows that you value other people’s time as much as your own.

After college, I made a promise to myself to always be on time. It doesn’t always work out perfectly, but I try my best.

And when I can’t avoid being late, I make sure to let the person know and apologize.

So remember, being punctual doesn’t just reflect on your time management skills; it also shows how much you respect the other person’s time. And trust me, people notice these things!

10. Acting Superior

Let’s cut to the chase, nobody likes a snob. People who act like they’re better than everyone else can be really off-putting. It’s a one-way ticket to alienating people and making a bad impression.

Confident people? They don’t need to act superior because they’re secure in their own worth.

They treat everyone with respect, no matter who they are or what they do.

They know that every person has their own worth and that titles or social status don’t define a person’s value.

So next time you’re meeting someone, remember this: We’re all human beings trying our best in this crazy world.

Treat everyone with kindness and respect, it’s the least we can do for each other.

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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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