In today’s society, it can be easy to feel drained, overwhelmed, and disconnected.
From a young age, we are often taught to follow the rules, to conform to societal expectations, and to prioritize external success over our own well-being.
It’s no wonder that so many of us struggle to find meaning and purpose in our lives.
But there are some among us who seem to have an unshakeable mental resilience.
These are the people who can weather any storm and emerge stronger and more grounded than before.
They are the ones who are able to find connection and purpose within themselves, even when the world around them is in chaos.
If you’re wondering whether you have exceptional mental resilience, here are ten signs to look for:
1) You don’t let setbacks define you.
Setbacks and failures are an inevitable part of life, but mentally resilient individuals refuse to let them define them.
Instead, they see these challenges as temporary obstacles that can be overcome with persistence and hard work.
As Oprah Winfrey once said, “I never let setbacks or failures get me down. I learned a long time ago that every failure is an opportunity to learn and grow. You just have to be willing to embrace the opportunity.”
Mentally resilient individuals embody this mindset, refusing to let setbacks and failures define them or hold them back.
They see these challenges as opportunities to learn and grow, and they use them as motivation to try again and do better next time.
2) You’re able to stay calm in stressful situations.
“Always behave like a duck- keep calm and unruffled on the surface, but paddle like the devil underneath.” ― Jacob Braude
When the stress and pressure of life feel like they’re bearing down on us, it can be all too easy to let our emotions get the best of us.
But mentally resilient individuals have mastered the art of staying calm and focused, even in the midst of chaos.
They understand that the ability to keep a cool head in stressful situations is essential for navigating the challenges of life.
Whether it’s a high-stakes meeting at work, a difficult conversation with a loved one, or a natural disaster, mentally resilient individuals are able to stay calm and focused, allowing them to think clearly and make sound decisions.
But how do they do it?
It often comes down to practice and self-awareness.
Mentally resilient individuals have learned to recognize and manage their emotions, and they know how to take deep breaths and practice relaxation techniques to help them stay calm in the face of stress.
3) You have a strong sense of purpose.
“Purpose is usually a mistaken word. I’ve seen many people looking for a greater purpose in life, like a kind of mission to save the world. Basically, they were trying to find something to make them feel super special and fill their ego. Purpose is something different. You don’t need to change the world. You just need to shift your perspective, from ‘what you can take from life today’ to ‘how you can contribute to life today.'” – Rudá Iandê
Mentally resilient people know what they want in life and they’re driven to pursue it.
They have a clear sense of purpose and direction, and this helps them stay motivated and focused even when things get tough.
The thing is that many people make the mistake of trying to find their purpose from external things, like chasing status or recognition, or from material possessions.
But the most mentally resilient people have a deeper sense of purpose. It comes not from what they want from life but from how they’ll give back to life.
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4) You’re able to bounce back from failures.
“The world isn’t perfect, and some days it wears you down. You can either accept that, and face it, and be a help to others instead of a hindrance. Or you can decide the rules are too tough and they shouldn’t apply to you, and you can ignore them and make things harder for everybody else. Sometimes life is about being sad and doing things anyway. Sometimes it’s about being hurt and doing things anyway. The point isn’t perfection. The point is doing it anyway.” ― Chloe Neill
Failures are an inescapable part of life. No matter how hard we try, there will always be times when we fall short of our goals or expectations.
But mentally resilient individuals understand that failures are not the end of the road – they are simply opportunities to learn and grow.
Rather than letting failures hold them back, mentally resilient individuals use them as motivation to try again and do better next time. They see failures as a natural part of the journey, and they use them as a chance to reflect on what went wrong and figure out how to improve.
5) You’re able to find the silver lining in difficult situations.
“Sometimes life events break your heart. Even as you grieve, allow light to seep through the cracks, uplift, and illuminate a healing. Baby turtles emerge from the cracking of shells; new life can burst forth. Clear away all broken belongings as a metaphorical pathway fresh, loving experiences in uncharted waters.”
― Laura Staley
Mentally resilient people have an ability to see the good in every situation, even when things are at their worst.
They know that every challenge presents an opportunity to learn and grow, and they’re able to find the silver lining in even the darkest clouds.
6) You’re able to adapt to change.
“I do not want to foresee the future. I am concerned with taking care of the present. God has given me no control over the moment following.” – Mahatma Gandhi
Difficult situations and challenges are an inevitable part of life, but mentally resilient individuals have a unique ability to see the good in every situation, no matter how difficult it may be. They understand that every challenge presents an opportunity to learn and grow, and they are able to find the silver lining in even the darkest clouds.
But finding the silver lining isn’t always easy. It requires an ability to look beyond the surface of a situation and see the deeper lessons and growth opportunities that it offers. It also requires an ability to find hope and positivity in the face of adversity, even when things seem bleak.
7) You have strong relationships.
Having strong, supportive relationships is a key characteristic of mentally resilient individuals.
These individuals understand that having a supportive network of friends and family is essential for their mental well-being and happiness.
They prioritize maintaining these relationships and work to cultivate strong, healthy connections with the people in their lives.
But what makes a relationship strong and supportive?
It’s often the little things that make the biggest difference.
Mentally resilient individuals are good at actively listening to others, showing empathy, and offering words of encouragement and support.
They are also skilled at communicating their own needs and boundaries, and they respect the needs and boundaries of others.
8) You’re able to regulate your emotions.
“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” ― Oscar Wilde
Emotions are a natural and essential part of being human, but it’s important to be able to recognize and manage them effectively. Mentally resilient individuals understand this, and they are able to regulate their emotions in a healthy and productive way.
They don’t let their emotions control them, but rather, they use their emotions as a tool to help them navigate the ups and downs of life. They recognize that emotions can be powerful motivators, and they use them to make positive changes in their lives.
But regulating emotions isn’t always easy. It requires self-awareness and the ability to recognize and manage our emotional responses to different situations. It also requires the ability to cope with difficult emotions in a healthy way, rather than letting them overwhelm us or lead us to make impulsive decisions.
9) You have a growth mindset.
“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” – Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
Mentally resilient individuals understand that personal growth and development are ongoing processes, and they have a growth mindset that allows them to stay motivated and focused on improving themselves.
They believe that no matter what their current circumstances, they have the power to improve and grow. They embrace challenges and setbacks as opportunities to learn and grow, and they are always looking for ways to push themselves out of their comfort zone and become the best version of themselves.
But a growth mindset isn’t just about personal development. It’s also about being open to new experiences and ideas, and having a willingness to embrace change and uncertainty. Mentally resilient individuals understand that the world is constantly evolving, and they are open to learning and adapting as they go.
10) You have a positive outlook.
Mentally resilient individuals understand that life is full of challenges and setbacks, but they refuse to let these things bring them down. Instead, they focus on the good things in life and strive to see the best in every situation.
But it’s not always easy to maintain a positive outlook, especially when things are tough. That’s where mental resilience comes in. By cultivating a positive attitude and a sense of hope and optimism, mentally resilient individuals are able to weather the storms of life and keep moving forward with determination and resilience.
But if you’re reading this and feeling like you could use a little boost in your mental resilience, don’t worry – there are plenty of resources available to help you. One excellent resource is the free masterclass on freeing your mind at The Vessel. This masterclass has been watched by thousands of people and is all about reclaiming the connection within and finding a deeper sense of purpose and connection.