These 10 brutal truths about life will help you get your shit together

We sometimes include products we think are useful for our readers. If you buy through links on this page, we may earn a small commission. Read our affiliate disclosure.
intelligent man These 10 brutal truths about life will help you get your shit together

If you’re like me, you get annoyed at the “fairy tale” successful life stories.

They usually go something like this:

– I had a dream.

– So then I achieved it!

– Voila! And here I am now giving you advice.

And the author ALWAYS skips over the hard parts to make themselves look smarter than they really are.

Give me a break.

I’m 29 now. And while I still have a lot to learn, I know life is much harder than these success stories make it seem.

So today, I’m going to go over 10 brutal truths about life that mainstream media simply won’t tell us.

1) Without goals, life is pointless

If you’re not working towards something, then you’re living without direction.

Goals help us to sort out what is important and what isn’t.

And when I look back on my life, my happiest moments are when I’m focused on the present moment working towards something bigger than myself.

2) What other people think about you really doesn’t matter

I’m sure many people can relate to this. I know I can.

We must realize how ridiculous all this worrying is. Being entirely dependent on others to experience self-worth is not healthy. There’s no point in being a people pleaser.

The moment people stop saying positive words towards you, you feel dejected and devalued.

It’s up to you to build your own value and approval in life.

3) We don’t have much control.

A lot of us experience a great deal of anxiety thanks to our preference to control everything in our lives.

But the truth is, we don’t have much control.

Think about your body right now. Your hair grows by itself. The heart beats by itself. Your glands secrete their essences by themselves.

If you’re going to be human, it’s necessary to accept that in life we don’t have much control.

On some level, you’ve got to let go and accept what you can’t control, so you can spend more energy focusing on things you actually can.

4) Failure is the road to success

Nobody has a life just full of success. It’s unavoidable to have some sort of failure in your life unless you don’t take the chance to succeed.

Yet so often we try to avoid failure because it makes us feel worse about ourselves.

But if we’re honest, failure often gives us the best lessons in life. It’s time to not fear failure as it may be your stepping stone to finding success.

5) A person isn’t defined by what they own

Expensive cars, branded bags, lavish clothes – Sure they may seem cool when you’re young, but they do not add value to you as a person.

It’s time to stop focusing on these material things and start building meaningful experiences and relationships.

6) Thinking vs doing is not the same

This brutal truth about life is a kicker.

We do a whole lot of daydreaming when we’re young.  But if there’s no actions involved it will never happen.

Success will not come find you and pick you up on the journey, it’s our responsibility to get up and start doing what we’ve been thinking about.

We need to stop waiting for that perfect moment and get going!

7) Change is the only law in life you can count on

Change is the only constant in the universe. No matter how hard you try, you won’t be able to stop the natural force of things.

We’re all getting older. It’s better to grasp the good moments while you can, while accepting that life goes on.

8) Everyone you know will eventually die

When we’re young, we don’t appreciate this fact. We think our elders will live forever.

They won’t.

And if you forget this then you won’t make the most of these relationships while you have them.

9) Worrying is useless

Worrying is created in the mind and really doesn’t offer any value to our lives.

Will worrying change what’s going to happen? If not, then it’s a waste of time.

This quote from Buddhist master Thich Nhat Hanh says it best:

“Worrying does not accomplish anything. Even if you worry twenty times more, it will not change the situation of the world. In fact, your anxiety will only make things worse. Even though things are not as we would like, we can still be content, knowing we are trying our best and will continue to do so. If we don’t know how to breathe, smile,and live every moment of our life deeply, we will never be able to help anyone. I am happy in the present moment. I do not ask for anything else. I do not expect any additional happiness or conditions that will bring about more happiness. The most important practice is aimlessness, not running after things, not grasping.”  – Thich Nhat Hanh

10) The root of suffering is pursuing temporary feelings

So many of us crave those feelings of what we think is happiness. We think happiness includes excitement, joy, euphoria…but these are only temporary feelings.

And the constant pursuit of these feelings only turns into suffering because they don’t last.

Instead true happiness comes from inner peace – being content with what you have and who you are.

Love yourself first and everything else falls into place

It may sound conceited or narcissistic to focus on loving yourself first. But it’s not.

The point isn’t to believe you’re better than others or to accept things about yourself that you really do need to change.

It’s about developing a healthy and nurturing relationship with… you!

Loving yourself is about committing to who you are, understanding the many different nuances to your identity, and showing yourself a level of care and intimacy that we usually reserve for other people.

Unfortunately, we’re not taught how to love ourselves from an early age. And we end up caring about what others think of us rather than focusing on what we need at a more fundamental level.

This is why we partnered with Rudá Iandê to produce a free masterclass on transforming our relationships through the practice of self-love.

It’s currently playing on The Vessel (one of our partners) but only for a limited time.

<< The Art of Love & Intimacy with Rudá Iandê >>

Thousands have attended and told us that the masterclass has completely transformed their relationships for the better.

It’s a must-watch and we couldn’t recommend it more highly.


Did you like my article? Like me on Facebook to see more articles like this in your feed.

Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.


Leave a Reply
  1. I have just watched the video, I had never heard of these four theories before. I also decided to leave things up to the Law of attraction etc after dismal and sometimes potentially harmful on line dating experience, yuk.
    This thought provoking as I feel I am some where between Secure and and avoidance, I think I need to have a little more thoght process.
    I have been on my own since 2010 with the odd dalliance but nothing permanent. I know my issue is trust and loyalty as I was married for twenty five years, I know my issue is based in fear, of being hurt, so I avoid. However my natural default setting in any relationship has always been freedom, for myself and the other person, what I mean is, I am very trusting because I know I can be trusted and I have never been some one who feels the need to be in each others pocket. But in knowing this about myself, I am scared that I am leaving myself wide open to being hurt. I have no choice, I have to trust people or I, as an individual, would be extremely miserable.
    I think I will read more about this and see if anything changes. Also, we change I think, in years gone by I would have been Secure through and through, now Secure but with infusions of other attachments.
    Thank you for this, really though provoking.

Leave a Reply

What do you think?

beaufiufl world Something extraordinary is happening in the world, and no one seems to have noticed

Something extraordinary is happening in the world, and no one seems to have noticed

alike This is exactly how society kills our creativity – in a breathtaking short film

This is exactly how society kills our creativity – in a breathtaking short film